Just filed divorce papers

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Registered: 10-19-2003
Just filed divorce papers
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Thu, 05-29-2008 - 5:33pm

My husband left in the middle of March, saying he did not love me anymore. Our only communication has been through text messaging. He kept saying he filed the divorce papers and that we were done( this is after a 29 year marriage). He kept jerking me around as to when he was going to file them. My lawyer looked it up and they were not filed. His lawyer kept telling my lawyer, it will be this week, it will be next week, etc. In the meantime my husband has shown no kindness towards me whatsover, it is usually anger and bitterness, he has even lied to our 19 year old daughter who is home from college and lives

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Registered: 04-27-2008
Thu, 05-29-2008 - 7:25pm

Hello Shukat,


It seems to me that you are doing the right thing. My husband said he was done with the marriage, but I had to file. He then duped me into believing he wanted to get back with me on the day he was served, but then after 3 days slipped back into his old ways.


It sucks that these men can do this to us when all we have done is show them love and kindness. In my case, my husband always got what he wanted in the marriage until one day I put my foot down when he wanted me to get a better paying job to help his dreams come true. I already make 40K per year and love my job, so I told him no. For 2 years he would bring it up and make me feel like crap. He started treating me worse and worse until one day he said he was done with the marriage.


I just want to wake up angry for once and furious instead of sad and hurt.


Again, it is very difficult to do that when you don't want the divorce in the first place, but they push us into these positions.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-06-2003
Fri, 05-30-2008 - 6:47am

Hey shukat,


You are doing the right thing.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-17-2003
Sun, 06-01-2008 - 3:21pm

Shukat,


I believe you should take the initative to file the paperwork.