Just filed yesterday....

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Registered: 01-13-2004
Just filed yesterday....
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Wed, 06-14-2006 - 3:48pm

Well, after almost 17 years of marriage, 2 kids later (DS 16 and DD11), I signed on the dotted line! It's over! For once in my long marriage, I have found a backbone and made a decision for ME and MY CHILDREN!

I have been emotionally abused, physically abused, degraded, humiliated, insulted, embarrasssed for YEARS! I have loved unconditionally and was not loved in return.

I reached my breaking point finally and here I am. Soon to be divorced.

I don't really have mixed feelings. An emotional affair between my ex best friend and my husband really put the icing on the cake and helped me make the ultimate decision!

I just wanted to introduce myself. I hope I can find some support here and maybe share some of what I've learned in the past.

Thanks for reading if you've made it this far!
Jennifer in CT

Jennifer

Proud Mom of Travis (15) and Mandi (10)

and our pets, Sully the Dog and Till

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 06-14-2006 - 4:21pm

Welcome. I am also in CT, and there are a couple others. Christine is down in the Southwest, I believe, and Laura, who doesn't get on much anymore is in the Danbury area... although moving up to West Hartford... which is where I live.

Good for you! It is certainly a good feeling! Stick around!

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Registered: 07-08-2004
Wed, 06-14-2006 - 10:00pm

Yes, another one from CT here!


You sound very empowered! I know filing can be scary, but it can also be a HUGE relief. Usually, it's something we've painfully thought about for a long time.


Here's to the beginning of a new life for you. Enjoy all the blessings that will undoubtedly come your way.




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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 06-14-2006 - 10:50pm
Welcome to the board Jennifer!

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 09-01-2005
Wed, 06-14-2006 - 11:45pm

Hi Jennifer,

Welcome. I was in a long-term marriage too (21 years) and decided I wouldn't take any more of his crap either. I also have two children (DD 12 and DS 17 today (it's his birthday)). I don't miss the humiliation and put-downs, and my world has become peaceful for the most part.

My divorce was filed just a year ago and I am hoping to be legally free by this summer. My kids are doing well, but I know it's been hard on them. I am happy to be able to give my son a refuge because he no longer wants to be around his father anymore (I left my home and moved into an apt). My daughter is 50/50 right now, but that may change in the future too. However, it was my son and I who bore the brunt of his anger.

Hang in there and be proud of the big steps you have taken towards a better future.

Belinda