Just filed yesterday....
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| Wed, 06-14-2006 - 3:48pm |
Well, after almost 17 years of marriage, 2 kids later (DS 16 and DD11), I signed on the dotted line! It's over! For once in my long marriage, I have found a backbone and made a decision for ME and MY CHILDREN!
I have been emotionally abused, physically abused, degraded, humiliated, insulted, embarrasssed for YEARS! I have loved unconditionally and was not loved in return.
I reached my breaking point finally and here I am. Soon to be divorced.
I don't really have mixed feelings. An emotional affair between my ex best friend and my husband really put the icing on the cake and helped me make the ultimate decision!
I just wanted to introduce myself. I hope I can find some support here and maybe share some of what I've learned in the past.
Thanks for reading if you've made it this far!
Jennifer in CT

Welcome. I am also in CT, and there are a couple others. Christine is down in the Southwest, I believe, and Laura, who doesn't get on much anymore is in the Danbury area... although moving up to West Hartford... which is where I live.
Good for you! It is certainly a good feeling! Stick around!
Yes, another one from CT here!
You sound very empowered! I know filing can be scary, but it can also be a HUGE relief. Usually, it's something we've painfully thought about for a long time.
Here's to the beginning of a new life for you. Enjoy all the blessings that will undoubtedly come your way.
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Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Hi Jennifer,
Welcome. I was in a long-term marriage too (21 years) and decided I wouldn't take any more of his crap either. I also have two children (DD 12 and DS 17 today (it's his birthday)). I don't miss the humiliation and put-downs, and my world has become peaceful for the most part.
My divorce was filed just a year ago and I am hoping to be legally free by this summer. My kids are doing well, but I know it's been hard on them. I am happy to be able to give my son a refuge because he no longer wants to be around his father anymore (I left my home and moved into an apt). My daughter is 50/50 right now, but that may change in the future too. However, it was my son and I who bore the brunt of his anger.
Hang in there and be proud of the big steps you have taken towards a better future.
Belinda