just need to vent

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Registered: 02-28-2007
just need to vent
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Thu, 03-15-2007 - 10:54pm

Ok, so I am relatively new here and this has been and perfectly horrible day. But let me share with all of you just a few bits of wisdom that I have deemed from my horrible so far nine month disaster.

In July of 2005 my husband took a job 1500 miles away, he had been unemployed for 3 months but I was also only 6 months from completeing my masters degree. We had been having problem for about 10 of our 13 years but it was a job. I graduated still didn't have a job in his new place so the kids and I continued to stay put. For a total of a year my kids and I saw him for a total of 25 days. I file for divorce and am offered a job 700 miles closer to him and closer to my family, I filed for divorce, left my friends, left my therapist and made the move.

See the thing is that 9 months into this divorce, move and all encompassing life changing situation I find that every day I question every step that I have taken. I want nothing more than to return to what I veiw as home, but can't seem to find employment back in that area, probably because it is in the state withm the worst unemployment in the country. I hate where I am and want nothing more than to go back but can't. Add to that that my stbx is being a complete and total jerk, I spent most of today arguing via email with my attorney about the fact that just now after 9 months all of a sudden mediation has been introduced to the equation with 6 weeks until our settlement conference which I equated with mediating our differnces and I just want to scream. I have no one to talk to I live in a painfully small town and don't have access to the therapist that I left and want nothing more than to fall apart except for the fact that I do everything that I can to keep it together for the kids and I get no breaks from them.

I want to scream, cry, fall apart and just cry until I can't cry anymore. would someone please just shoot me so that my agony would be over?

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Registered: 02-03-2007
Fri, 03-16-2007 - 10:40am
You need to talk to your Attorney, and make sure there is a provision in there that lets you move back to your home state. Some states require that you remain in State of divorce. If you are really miserable, will you be happier in home state? Do you have people you can contact about jobs in home state? If you are miserable is it worth it for you to stay put? Just make sure you have the right to move before you do anything.
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 03-27-2007 - 12:04pm

Hey... sorry I didn't catch you sooner.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 09-19-2006
Tue, 03-27-2007 - 12:17pm
Definitely call an old girlfriend or a close family member, see if someone can come in and see you or go visit someone.......take the kids to a park......or take them somewhere with a new work friend......hang in there.......see if there is a support group where you live and meet with another single mom...small towns can be nice.....hope you are better....