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| Mon, 08-14-2006 - 7:57pm |
I talked to my STBX today because we are going to file a settlement agreement. I told him that he needs to tell his paralegal that she needs to amend the petition for dissolution of marriage because he put down the wrong date of marriage. He put my birthday (which is extactly a month after our wedding date - at least he got the year right!). When he called me back, he said she told him that it really won't make a difference with the settlement but she could do an amendment and I have to be served again. I told him that I do want to have the amendment. He got angry saying that I'm being difficult and want the long way in this. After getting off the phone with him, I got angry. Why is he making me out to be the bad guy? He's the one who wanted to leave me! He's the one who chose walked out! He's the one who didn't believe our marriage was worth saving! He's the one who filed the papers! He's the one who put the wrong date! He put this all in motion, not me! I'm just trying to get my life in order. I'm picking up the pieces that he left behind. I don't want to play victim but I don't think I deserve that. I know that he's been verbally abusive to me in the past but I don't want to deal with it anymore. I don't think I should have to.
BREATHING!
Okay, now that I've gotten all that out, I really do feel better. For everyone who reads this, thank you for letting me vent out. I neeeded that!

Welcome... I've seen a couple of your posts and the initial stages of all of this can be so hard... take care of yourself... like Karen said, talk to your doctor and make sure that you're staying hydrated... I lost 30 pounds when my now xh left because I couldn't eat... (I've gained it back now)... but if you're having issues sleeping or with the panic attacks, do talk to your doctor, because they can help you get through this most stressful time...
Speaking of stress... why is he pinning it on you? Easy... he's not mature enough to take responsibility for his own actions or desires, therefore he shifts the blame to you to make himself feel better and less culpalbe...
Stay strong and don't let the (&^*%&^$ get you down!
*hugs*
Julie