Just putting this out there

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Registered: 06-27-2005
Just putting this out there
Sun, 07-24-2005 - 7:19pm

My ex is dating a woman he cheated on me with three years ago. We just separated in May. Kind of makes me wonder if they weren't in contact the past three years we were together.

Well je gets all upset if I so much as appear to have another man in my life but he is with this new woman. He is even moving her and her 5 year old son into our family home. Legally it still belongs to the both of us. I fled the house in fear of mine and the children's safety.

Honestly it was never a matter of me not loving... part of why I'm not taking him for everything I could get. I just want my stuff, the children's stuff, and child support. I haven't worked since before we got married so I suppose you could say he owes me alimony too but I don't want it.

It was a matter of he wouldn't get the help he needs... aka anger management and AA. He really does need some serious counseling.

I'm just putting out here what I feel because I'm so mixed up. I tried for a year and a half to help him seek out counseling for his violence (not just against me but anyone who disagrees with him or his mommy). Then in December 2004, he turned 21 and became an alcoholic. He doesn't believe he needs AA but I say when you drink every night and get drunk to the point where you can't come home to your pregnant wife and your son then there is a problem. Not to mention since I moved out, I went back to get our clothes and found the fridge full of beer and vodka and nothing else.

I still love him and want him to get help but I can't be his punching bag anymore so I had to leave... for myself and for the kids. I hope he comes to his senses and gets the help he needs but I won't be going back... after all he only promised 400 and some odd times he'd never hit me again and that he would go to counseling... he hasn't kept either promise.