Just a quick update
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| Wed, 08-13-2008 - 8:01am |
Hi Everyone, Just a quick update on my situation. Things are still pretty much as before. Husband has been away quite a bit in the last few days on business and recreation. He has told me that his job will be changing and that he will be appointing someone else to handle some of the most stress causing aspects. He will also be traveling around the world much more often than before (something which he likes). I guess in some ways this is good (he wont be home as much). In the past he has wanted me to accompany him on some trips (this sounds good I know but I could never do the right thing (because I got tired and came back to the hotel one afternoon he threw a fit because I was not taking enough advantage of being there after he had paid for me to go). Anyway, he is still maintaining that he wants to try and has said that I dont have the balls to leave. I told him that if he believed that he was very mistaken.
I have had an open house weekend on our house lots of interest but everyone wants to low ball offers which (at least at present) is a no-no. As it has only been on the market for a few weeks I am still hopeful.
I dont think that my husband will ever stop being verbally and emotionally abusive. The strange thing is that with most people in this category they present a good face to friends and workmates, in my husband's case he doesnt. Maybe because he has such a high profile job he feels able to indulge himself. I feel that most people at his work fear/dislike him and that he is aware of it but doesnt really care. He has had a difficult job finding personal assistants in the past, one went for lunch and just didnt return which I think says a lot about him. I feel that in the past because he was not in such a high position he had to watch his behavior more but now he can do as he pleases.
Sorry I know I am jumping around quite a lot in this message but am typing as thoughts come to me. I have also been photocopying any and all documents relating to bank accounts, loans, insurance, pensions, and 401k that I can find. So far have not made an appointment with a lawyer but do have the name of one who was recommended to me be a friend (her husband is a DA and suggested him) so we shall see. Have also discovered a messageboard for my area for separation and divorce in which people want to meet up together for meals, movies etc.
Many thanks to all of you who have taken the time to reply to my call for help. Kathy

Hey!
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
I have those feelings when my STBX says things like he's so sad we are splitting up.
You're right... you know, in the midst of my EX's professions I simply asked him "what about your behavior would make me WANT to stay?" and he was speechless.... that was about the time right after he said that the *reason* he'd done all the terrible things he'd done was "because I was trying to make you cry... because if you cried, then I'd know how much you loved me" (as if there weren't any other logical ways one would express love to another person).
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~