Just Starting this Jouney

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Registered: 04-11-2003
Just Starting this Jouney
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Mon, 04-21-2008 - 11:51am

Hi gals.

STBX and I finally agreed to separate yesterday. I'm guessing I'm going to need to talk to people going through the same thing, so I'm here.

STBX immediately told our son that we were going to live apart and that "mommy doesn't love me anymore."

We are still living together. I'm not sure where either of us would go as we have no family in the area. Also, STBX refuses to move out. Our lease is up July 1. I would love to move closer to my workplace, but don't want to do that until the school year is over. Until then, I guess we are all stuck living under one roof with my husband and I not talking to each other.

That's a short glimpse at what is going on.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 04-24-2008 - 10:34am

Wow!


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Thu, 04-24-2008 - 10:56am

Thanks for the response. After the initial anger and shock wore off my STBX started behaving very well. He is calmly making plans regarding moving out and how to split our marital property. So far, so good. He is saying that he would like our son to live with me. He would like it if we continue to live near each other because he would like to walk our son to school each morning. (he says that I can have the car, so he will have no car). He would also like to have our son over at his place every other weekend.

The big hassle now is trying to separate our finances. Also, it will be very hard for STBX to find a place to rent as he has no job, tons of debt and a very bad looking credit report.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 04-24-2008 - 10:59am
At least he's thinking about what will be good for your son.... that is a GOOD thing.

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Thu, 04-24-2008 - 12:23pm
How does he plan to pay for an apt. if he has no job?