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| Wed, 11-16-2005 - 3:03pm |
Hi,
I have a "consultation" with a divorce attorney next week. This has been a very difficult decision. I am looking for information - I have been married for 12 years, we have one child. I have been a stay at home mom for 6 years - worked prior to that, but don't have a formal degree. Live in Ohio, but I'm not from here - all of my family is away - although I wouldn't move. I don't know what my next step is or what this process will involve. Should I move out or him and how do you afford this? Do we have to legally file for seperation? Will I be given alimony or will I have to work (our daughter is young)? Do we sell the house? Cars? What about Pensions? 401k's? What do I need to be prepared for my consultation? How do I know if she is a good divorce lawyer? Any information or personal experience would be so helpful. Thanks.

I remember this feeling when I just started out. It's hard for me to answer these quesstions because the law is different in each state.. I would interview 3 attorneys and ask for a free consultation. First you want to know if they will be handling the case personally or handing it to associates. You want them to tell you how it is, not what you want to hear. Find out upfront costs and how they bill. Be careful of phone time, they charge by 15 minute increments so 5 minutews will cost you 15. There are so many questions you need answered.
Please , remember to take deep breaths and I promise this will be just a crappy chapter in your life and there is light at the end of the tunnel. You just have to go thru this process to get there but it will be alright.
The best thing I can tell you is to visit my web site http://todaysdivorcedwoman.com/ It will help you with your journey as well as my book Congratulations on Your Divorce, the road to finding your happily ever after.
I wish you well and would be happy to talk about other things, I just can't talk about the legal because each state is different. The book will help you manage your lawyer , check it out
Big Hug,
AMy