Just told him about sole custody...

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Registered: 09-01-2004
Just told him about sole custody...
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Thu, 09-29-2005 - 1:24pm

I just told him that I have officially filed for divorce and he will be served soon. Also told him I was going for sole-custody and supervised visitation. He actually took it pretty well. He said he was expecting it based on my actions and comments (I didn't think I was saying much, but maybe my silence spoke volumes). It doesn't sound like he is going to contest it, but time will tell. Normally he blows up, says really nasty things, then later takes them back. He didn't do that this time, so I'm pretty hopeful it will work out and he won't contest it and I don't have to find evidence of the drug use and molestation. Then again he could be trying to make me feel comfortable while he works something in the background.

He was concerned that he still gets to see his girls. I explained that sole custody only means that I make the decisions, it doesn't impact visitation. I did tell him that his visitation needs to be supervised, but didn't go into why and he didn't ask why. I think he knows that it needs to be until I'm convinced that nothing is going on with our daughter. I'm trying to use it as leverage to force him to go talk to the CPS detective.

I've also been working with my daughter to convince her to tell the counselor what happened as she explained it to me. I'm hoping that just explaining it to the counselor will be enough to prevent him from getting unsupervised visitation. I have a call into the lawyer to ask for sure.

Got my fingers crossed that everything will work out and everything we've agreed to so far will go forward without contest. Wish me luck!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-06-2005
Thu, 09-29-2005 - 1:37pm

Hugs to you, here's to everything working out the way you want it to.


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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 09-29-2005 - 5:22pm
Keep us updated.... and good luck!


Karen ~ wildlucky4me


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