Just wondering

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-11-2006
Just wondering
2
Fri, 03-16-2007 - 6:01pm
I have been trying to heal following my marriage breakup. It seems though that when I have to have contact with my STBX, I take a few steps backwards, it drains and really saddends me. Does anyone feel like this too
Avatar for momtojoeybear
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: gr1243
Fri, 03-16-2007 - 8:47pm

I think what you're feeling after seeing your x is definitely normal and is one of the reasons that some choose to go no or limited contact... x and I could only talk about four things--the divorce, our child, our dogs, or our mutual bills...

Limiting it to that helped to create some of the boundaries that need to be created during a divorce... now I'm not on great terms with xh, but we can have a decent conversation about 75% of the time...

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-16-2007
In reply to: gr1243
Fri, 03-16-2007 - 9:09pm
I am going through a divorce now, too, and I have the same emotions as you. I can be doing ok, and then I see him, and I take steps backwards. This is such a hard thing!