A kick in the wazoo.......
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| Thu, 05-25-2006 - 8:37pm |
A kick in the wazoo was just what I got and needed. Monday was court, we negotiated right before and that was ok. That night I went to the state mandated class for divorcing parents. That was AWFUL! Two hours of browbeating you about what you are doing to your children. I was in tears the whole time and didn't sleep at all that night. Tuesday stbx and I emailed to set the visitation schedule. See the email.
"For this week, Wednesday and Thursday evening with Sunday night is fine.
After that, Wednesday, Thursday and Friday night is fine.
The bills, that is fine as well.
As for the other comment, I never didn’t want to talk to them, the way you proceeded and the nature of the allegations you submitted made it unwise to say the least until some issues were cleared up. I see you still hold to the false impressions about the two as before. The truth is, I listed over 40 something activities that I have done with the children as a group within the past months. Unfortunately none of the four children rarely got individual time, most things were done as a group with some combination thereof. It is very sad, destructive path you have chosen for all of us. Very little, if any good will come of this. We could all be on vacation as a family instead of a courtroom.
I will not get drug into a back and forth conversation any more about differences we have as it will serve no good purpose. I am hopeful you realize that you can stop this even still before it is too late. I will be happy to visit with all the children and I am sure Dad will be happy to play pool with Kyle even still. I will call this evening"
So that email kicked me out of my fog. He doesn't see anything wrong at all. So, last night he came by the house to pick up the kids. All four walked outside, shut the door and were gone. So I thought. A moment later the older two came back in and said "Dad says we aren't going". OMG!!! I went outside and he was gone. What a big FREAK!!! I felt so bad for them.
So today I started looking at houses. He won't let me assume the mortgage on this one and since I'm not on the mortgage HEY, time to by a new house. I found two wonderful possiblites today. I'm taking all the kids on Saturday to see them. Now, how long until the divorce is final so I can close. His attorney is suppose to be preparing the temporary agreement. We are suppose to be setting up a mediation meeting, hopefully soon.
I feel good about my decision now. Well, as good as you can feel. I've actually gone two days now and no tears. Now I just want to start our new life. Get the kids into a routine and start enjoying life again.
Laura

Wow. I can not believe he showed up and then just took off without the kids.
And the fact that you've gone two days without crying is a big milestone. I know it still hurts, but based on your STBX's actions, it looks like your decision was a good one.
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