kids and divorce

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Registered: 02-23-2006
kids and divorce
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Wed, 05-28-2008 - 11:45am

hi all


I don't post here much, but I wanted to toss something out to see if I can get some advice or send me to another board.

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Registered: 04-02-2007
Thu, 05-29-2008 - 4:33pm

Sorry, I got lost in the numbers, but it doesn't sound like you have been divorced for very long. Your son is at a vulnerable state of adolescence, particularly when he has lost the same-sex parent's daily influence. I don't think it's wrong to be a stronger presence for him right now. You've successfully parented these kids for quite a while now, and I'm certain yours is the very best judgment of what they need. Can you go overboard and smother them? Yes. But right now, when the kids are dealing with being teenagers and having their parents split up, I don't see that as a real problem.


Did you say you were seeing someone 14 years YOUNGER than you? Is he closer in age to your kids than he is to you? I'm wondering about HIS motivation in trying to cut down the amount of time/attention you give to your son. I would go so incredibly slow with this relationship if I were you. There is absolutely NO hurry. Concentrate on your children and healing yourself from your failed marriage before you attempt to move on with a committed relationship. Do you know how you contributed to the failure of your marriage? Have you done the work to figure that out and address it in yourself? The divorce itself is only a piece of paper. The real work is internal.


Best of luck to you. Take your time. Tell Skippy to keep his mouth shut about parenting issues until he can speak with a voice of experience.

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Mom to 5: DS-17, DD-16, DD-11, DD-9, DS-7

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Registered: 02-23-2006
Fri, 05-30-2008 - 4:49pm

thanks ladies.

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