Kids are gone :(

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Registered: 03-06-2005
Kids are gone :(
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Fri, 06-17-2005 - 6:40pm

Well the kids are gone.


Im sad about it. My daughter didn't want to go. She latched onto me and when he took her, her bottom lip came out and the tears started. I took her back and hugged her telling her it's ok and XH just said "it's me dad"..... I didnt want to let her go. She just latched onto me.


OW was with him when he picked up the kids. For the first time in months she invited herself in. Ugh. I hate that. I just ignore her, she has been asked many times to not come with him and if she does to wait in the car. There's a lot of reasons why... nothing to be looked over I assure you. Anyway, as they were getting into the van. XH was putting DS into his seat and OW saw that I was watching them. I wanted to wave to my daughter so she wouldn't cry, anyway OW looked at me, then quickly put her a$$ up to the window. She was leaning back into the back seat, but her a$$ did NOT have to be pressed up against the glass. Also, her black thong was hanging out. I saw that and looked away. What class she has, let me tell you.


SO comes home tonight from Pittsburgh, I can't wait. I miss him so much. He was telling me while he was gone ( we would talk for 2 hours every night ) that he wished I was there and he wished he was cuddling with me and he missed me.... I can't wait to see him.


We are having a party this weekend for Fathers Day. I am glad the kids will get to spend it with XH. Do you guys get anything for XH? I was going to get him a card and giftcard from the kids but I know it sounds stupid. I feel obligated... its just the "right" thing to do... what do you guys think?

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Fri, 06-17-2005 - 6:49pm

Aww... it's hard when they cry.


Fortunately... me EX doesn't involve his new Honey around me.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 03-06-2005
Fri, 06-17-2005 - 7:01pm

Yeah I do need a vacation..... all mommy's do I think ;) I still have little Justin here though, so it's like.... no difference...... I love my kidlets, but your right, I do need some me time sometimes.


I guess that's what I would want is my kids to remember that they have 2 dads and that XH deserves just as much as SO does. My son already made SO a father's day card in the shape of a boat at school. It says "I love you daddy" and then on the inside it says "I like dad"...lol. He is only 6...lol still cute, nonetheless. He came home with 2 more from school that he wanted to give to XH, then he decided he wanted to make another one for SO.... I know it must be confusing but I want them to be thoughtful like I was brought up. Regardless of feelings. Maybe I won't get him anything, I will just pick out a generic card and give it to him Sunday when he drops off the kids. I got him a gift card last year and a card and I mailed it to him. I never got a thank you or even any acknowledgement that he got it... I was like HOW RUDE! lol.


Anyway, thanks :)


Hugs,


Angelena

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Registered: 04-01-2003
Fri, 06-17-2005 - 7:32pm

I also want my kids to be thoughtful, and I want them to know that even though we don't love each other, we can still be civil to each other. So, my kids usually make him a card. If I get him a gift, it's usually some crafty thing I buy for the kids to make for him, or I give him a picture of them, but I let them pick out the picture they want to give to their dad.

He likes to show off his new-found wealth (even though he still doesn't pay child support), so he got me 2 bday and xmas presents (1 from each child).