Kids meeting OW :(

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-12-2006
Kids meeting OW :(
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Thu, 11-16-2006 - 10:20pm
So I thought my STBX had come to his senses about moving his SC girlfriend (the one he had an affair with 10 years ago) here to IL. I found out tonight that he has not and they plan on moving her here in January. I also found out tonight that while he is in Saint Louis on a business trip, she is there with him and they are coming back here together. This is his weekend with our children and he is going to introduce the OW to them. They have only been talking for the last 6 weeks....how can he think this is ok to introduce them so soon? How do I cope with this weekend? I know I am going to be sad and depressed and extremely lonely! Anyone?
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Registered: 01-29-2005
Thu, 11-16-2006 - 10:39pm

Wow, I am so very sorry this is happening. This will be a hard weekend and I'd suggest calling on the people closest to you for support. Call a friend or have someone come over who will just allow you to cry on their shoulder, and also try to distract you with doing something...watch a movie..anything.

I understand how furious you must be. My ex moved out of our house and in with his new gf within a week. He told the children about her within two weeks and had her over to my house while I was at work. I tried yelling, screaming, reasoning, threatening...everything. It just doesn't work. It's unfortunate but you have no control over this.

I would strongly suggest you go see a lawyer right now. It is going to look very bad for him to have supposedly rekindled a romance that had been an affair. I do not mean to make this worse for you, but seriously, who would believe the two of them had nothing going on for 10 years, and that it's just coincidence with their timing?

Stay strong. I know this is hard. Call on your friends and family for support and come here as much as you need/want to to vent. We're here for you, and I for one will send your STBX and his OW as many bad vibes as possible. :-P

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Thu, 11-16-2006 - 10:59pm
I know how you feel. My boys are about to meet the gf of 3 months this weekend. They are handling it better than I. It is making me crazy. He is going to take her to ys ball game Saturday. I feel like he will just be parading her around saying, Look everyone, see how much better I have done. I am sorry for you and your children.
Hugs, Brenda

Hugs, Brenda