Kids not upset that dad is gone a lot?
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Kids not upset that dad is gone a lot?
| Sat, 02-10-2007 - 11:46pm |
Is is just that we haven't moved or anything yet? Or was I overestimating his bond with the kids? He is gone most weekends, home late most nights and the kids aren't even asking about him. They seem happy to see him when he is here but when he is not, its not a big deal.
I even have to ask if he called them, (he often calls eldest on her cell, avoids having me answer the phone LOL).
Side note: he closed the joint checking acct today, thank goodness I had just moved my direct deposit to my own acct. now he can deal with the fallout of all the bills. I did cancel all the bill pay settings so now he can figure it all out by himself.
M

Hmmm? Well, if your children are also in school or child care they may simply be used to not seeing him much. I don't know their ages, either; that may be a factor. Also, maybe it sinks in slowly; takes awhile to realize it isn't a temporary situation.
I wish I anticipated my kids would take their father's departure so well. My oldest has already commented at one of our "family gatherings" with church friends that "all the other daddies are here." Right now it is just because he is at work, but eventually (April) it will be because he is gone.
Good for you taking care of YOUR finances and leaving him to sort out adult responsibilities, like paying the bills. Mine doesn't even open his bank/IRA and other statements, much less pay the bills and yet he wants a piece of my assets. Grrrrrr.
I hope your kids continue to weather the change well. Just give 'em lots of love and appropriate attention!
M
Well, I think that says a lot about him (and why you're divorcing).
Run with it... if they seem fine, they most likely are.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~