The Latest Development

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The Latest Development
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Tue, 05-09-2006 - 12:06pm

We are suppose to sign our seperation agreement on Friday but today I got a text message from my stbx that says, "if u need to call me then u have to call "my sister in law" 2 get me no more games".

As far as I'm concerned that is a game. He wants me to contact him through the same woman who threatened to morgage her house to get an attorney to take custody of our daughter from me. This is the same woman that said I wasn't even allowed to email her pictures of my daughter...and now I'm suppose to contact my stbx through her?!

What would/could an attorney say or do about this? Does this warrant sole custody?

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Registered: 01-28-2004
Wed, 05-10-2006 - 5:07pm

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Wed, 05-10-2006 - 9:16pm

It's tough to admit that you've been rubbed raw by the situation. I hope you find support her.

It may be to your benefit, to turn things around on him for now, and insist he contact YOU through a mediator. Remove yourself from the drama so you can think clearly about what YOU need to do. Emotions have a way of making us do unwise things in divorce; let someone listen to whatever he says, give the information to you in a dispassionate way, and let you make your decisions rationally and calmly.

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Registered: 02-08-2006
Wed, 05-10-2006 - 10:40pm
Thanks you for the suggestion. This may be the route to go unfortunately.
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Registered: 07-08-2004
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 11:02am

ITA, Karen!


And to justme, please know that we are here to support you. Like Karen said, sometimes when we post here, we're in a state of high emotion, and we just need to get it all out.


We're here to listen and get through this together.




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Registered: 02-08-2006
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 1:00pm

My stbx and I have been able to communicate a little bit today and make progress towards a seperation agreement that we both are willing to sign. Communication is still strained at best. All I can do is pray that he comes around and sees that I'm asking for what is our right to have and not "having my cake and eating it too" like he feels.

I know he must be so stressed out right now. I can't imagine what he's going through, especially if the rumors about his gf being pregnant are true. He's messed up his career big time lately and he's very angry right now.

I think time will heal a lot of the communication strain. I guess we're kind of in the heat of the battle right now. I can't wait for it to be over.

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Registered: 05-09-2006
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 5:28pm
Well I think that it's a good thing that you two are able to communicate with each other even if it's on some level. You have to remember to keep your wits about you when dealing with him. Emotions are running high right now b/c as you say your " in the heat of the battle." You can't listen to all the rumors that your hearing either, b/c what if they aren't true? Are these rumors coming from a reliable sourse, or are they coming from someone that just wants to add more drama in your life. You have to consider the sourse of the matter. SO lets say that your STBX's gf isn't pregnant then you have nothing to worry about. But what if she is? What could you do about it at this point in time? And the answer to that would be nothing! I'm sure that your STBX is going through a lot right now and maybe he is stressed out right now, but aren't you? Just how badly did he ruin his career? Wouldn't that mean less for you in the long run? I don't know the whole story as I am new on here, but my best advice is this: Don't listen to everything you hear b/c the person that told you those rumors doesn't have your best interest at heart. They are either only out for themselves or just trying to cause more stress to something that sounds like is already bad enough. Remember that you have to pick your battles, b/c we're not going to win them all.
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Thu, 05-11-2006 - 6:38pm
Hi seasonsofchange... Welcome to the board!

Karen ~ wildlucky4me

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