Laughing my *** off!!! (long..)

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Registered: 04-18-2003
Laughing my *** off!!! (long..)
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Thu, 03-02-2006 - 8:55pm

Ok my X is a dumb *** big time.

This is someone who said about our DD "I WILL DO EVERYTHING AND ANYTHING FOR MY DD JUST SO I CAN SEE HER AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE I MISS HER AND BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH" and yes he had tears running down his face....

Am I laughing at that NO!

He was given 2 days a week parenting time (at the times he requested 5-8:30 p.m.) which I thought was too late for a 5 yr during the school week but never said a word. Well it got dwindled down to 1 day a week because he couldn't afford gas to drive up here (1 hour away his choice to move)so I agreed he chose the day Tues. Then he would forget and not come get her and then ask for another day then we would switch and then the next week go back to original day and of course it was all my fault. Well then it dwindled down to no days during the week and every other weekend. Because his truck got repo'd and it was my fault.

Am I laughing at that NO!

Our DD needs to have tubes and possible adenoid surgery and my niece had this done and from the adenoid surgery (very rare but she began to hemorrhage and needed blood) so I asked my X about this and he remembered when my niece started bleeding and needed a transfusion. So I asked X about 2 months ago "If we decide for surgery then I would like to have blood ready for her just in case and I would like you to give it because I have been taking steroids (for allergic drug reaction) and I don't want that in her system." He says "I WILL DO WHATEVER SHE NEEDS I WILL GIVE HER MY BLOOD AND I WILL BE THERE FOR HER AND BLAH BLABH BLABH..." well I told him I needed ot know his blood type and "I WILL GET THAT TO YOU ASAP!!!" Well as of 2 months ago when I asked him has he told me?! NOPE!

Am I laughing at that NO!

He is behind in child support over $1800 but has $$$$ to go out, go get a new cell phone, new shoes for him, new pair of shoes that our DD doesn't need for $85. $85!!! I don't even pay that much for a whole outfit for my DD and myself together!!! Regardless my DD has been having issues because he will call during the week and if and when she talks to him he tells her he misses her but everytime he has her he goes out and leaves her with his mom or whomever. Now he bums off his 2 sisters for a place to live, has no vehicle, doens't pay his child support, has another child that lives with his GF who she lives with her mom and dad part time and then goes bums off his sisters too , plus she gets WELFARE and NOW she is prego AGAIN!!!!

It isn't the poor kids fault but IF he pays any of his child support to our DD then I more or less am giving it right back out of my paycheck(s) I work 2 jobs so that it can pay for his 2 other kids when he is laying on his fat ***!!! He is more than able to work at Burger King or something.

REMEMBER HE SAID "I WILL DO ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING FOR MY DD (WITH TEARS MIND YOU)..."

Am I laughing - HELL YES -- you DUMB ***!!!

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Registered: 07-08-2004
Thu, 03-02-2006 - 9:59pm
DUMB doesn't even BEGIN to describe the situation you've explained. It amazes me that a father could act like that. What a nightmare to have to deal with someone like that!
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 03-02-2006 - 10:56pm

I agree..... "Dumb" is being too nice.


This is what I did with my EX when he'd forfeit a visit.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 03-03-2006 - 3:33am

It isn't the poor kids fault but IF he pays any of his child support to our DD then I more or less am giving it right back out of my paycheck(s) I work 2 jobs so that it can pay for his 2 other kids when he is laying on his fat ***!!!


Peace,

Di

***If you cannot define yourself, your circumstances will.***

 

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Registered: 04-18-2003
Fri, 03-03-2006 - 7:30pm

Thanks - I did note the time.

You got it right - me along with everyone else paying taxes for the welfare mom and kids.

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Registered: 02-23-2005
Sat, 03-04-2006 - 12:48pm

Not to put a downer on your bit of laughter, but I just wanted to let you know that I am one of those moms with kids that has to use the welfare system. I'm self-employed however I'm still in the process of building the buisness and if it wern't for gov. assistance I don't know where I'd be. I only get food and medical help but at this point in my life I'll take what I can get.

Buisness has been getting better every year and as it does I'm working myself off of the program. I'm just letting you know that I'm slightly offended by your comments. Some of us actually use the system as it's intended.

Thanks,
K:)

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Registered: 03-03-2006
Sat, 03-04-2006 - 9:06pm

I changed my name but I am the one who started this post.

I guess I should of put that the Welfare was pertaining to my X and his GF who are more than capable of working and taking care of their own children but CHOOSE to use the system and continue haivng children.

I apologize to you, for by the way you stated your information, you are one of the few that actually use the system as it was meant to be used.

I am not knocking welfare in general because belive me I have looked for assistance when my X and I separated and guess what I DON"T QUALIFY for NADA.

help with my daycare or utilities. NOPE! But I know I have to take of my child and that is why I have to bust my bum to work 2 jobs. My X and I could of spit out 3-4 more but WHY? When I know it would have been a struggle.

My post again was referring to my X and his GF. Whom choose to spend $85 on a pair of shoes for my DD, which at least he bought her something right, no if you have $85 to throw around for ONE pair of shoes then give back to the system you are taking from. They have money to go out every weekend and gas to fill up her car back and forth 1hr each way with the price of gas.

He shouldn't be having anymore kids because he can't take care of himself yet alone anyone else.

Again, apologizes to you because I did NOT intend my post to be taken that way by all the families, moms, dads who deserve to use the system.

My X and his GF I dont' feel should be able too and that is what I am laughing at.

Thanks for reading and posting.