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| Sun, 05-04-2008 - 5:02pm |
I thought my stbx was going to take our son for his bday to visit his side of the family yesterday during visitation.
| Sun, 05-04-2008 - 5:02pm |
I thought my stbx was going to take our son for his bday to visit his side of the family yesterday during visitation.
Actually when I got divorced, I didn't really distance myself from my in-laws.
Buck,
It sounds like your in-laws are trying to be supportive. I'd embrace that. Discuss with them your feelings and come to some agreement about how you see them and how often. They'll appreciate your candor. I'd also tell your FIL that you'd appreciate him NOT asking your son a million questions about his father. It's not your child's responsibility to answer for his father. If you have a contact number for your STBX, give it to your FIL and ask him to call him. Explain you aren't comfortabel having your son answer for his father's whereabouts.
I'd also consider putting your child in therapy. He's trying to cope with adult-sized problems. It's not your fault or his that your STBX isn't spending time with his child or the rest of his family. It might help your son to see that he's not responsble for his father or his decisions.
Good luck and count your blessings. At least your in-laws aren't blaming you or choosing sides in an obvious way.
CL-Wisdomtooth2020
I sounds like your stbxH needs a really good Therapist. Parents have such an impact on a child and that impact lasts for decades.
Could he be suffering from depression?
Sonya...
No, I don't think he is depressed.
Someone needs to organize an intervention and get him into a rehab clinic. He will wind up killing someone (DUI) or will get sick.
He really needs someone to b*tch slap him. If he was old enough I would say sign up up with the Marines and they will make a man out of him.
I am sorry that you have to through this but he needs to grow up.
Sonya...