Learning more about myself...

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Learning more about myself...
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Tue, 01-17-2006 - 4:14pm

The other night I decided to sign up for an online dating service, and one of the steps involved is to take the personality profile test. There's prolly over 100 different questions. I was eventually "declined" as a member because I'm still officially married. Anyway, the profile said that I tend to "sacrifice your own self-interests to accommodate others"..."May feel uncomfortable in the limelight"...; "Need to feel secure in most activities"...; You generally communicate with others in a mild-mannered way. You do not like to make waves and create disharmony. As a result you may defer your own ideas to those of others"... That was the communication section.

The communication styles that mesh best my own are in part:
"Support ideas for change with facts, figures and logic"...; "Present ideas softly, non threateningly"...; "Keep the conversation at the discussion level, rather than confrontation"...

For my strengths:
"You are good at reconciling (i.e. you don't like to sulk after a conflict is resolved)"...; "You tend to be a calming influence in heated situations"...; "You are supportive of other people"...; "Good at listening to your partner"...; "You like to gather facts and think things over before offering a strong opinion"...; "You tend to bring feelings of security and stability to a relationship"...; "You tend to work hard at making sure that other people are happy"...

Overview section:
"When meeting new people, you may be rather unassuming and mild mannered. You will be cooperative and easygoing in social groups and family events, because of an inherent need to not make waves or cause hostility."
"You become most comfortable in situations when the best offense is a good defense. You seldom act aggressively towards others, but will demonstrate a passive resistance from time to time."
"When treated fairly, you can be sound and stable and seen as a dedicated and devoted individual. You hesitate to say no and will seldom, if ever, attack."
"You may be well thought of because you rarely antagonize others or rarely want the spotlight."
"You are rather quiet and modest.You tend to not show assertiveness and are never domineering or egocentric. You prefer others to be in the spotlight rather than yourself."

Needs:
"Identification with your social group.
"an environment free from conflict or hostility. "
"To feel important, but not the leader."
"Time to react to new ideas and sudden change"
"A predictable environment with few surprises that are not "planned""
"Recognition for your loyalty".

I felt a bit like a wuss after reading that, but I know what I need to work on now. Last night, I'd asked 18 y/o DS if he could bring up a load of firewood for me. There were still 3-4 logs up here, but I wanted enough to get through the night and today. He said, "You're not going to burn all those tonight", in a snotty voice. I decided to assert myself and said, "It doesn't MATTER if I'm not going to burn them, I ASKED you to bring firewood up. Please bring it up for me." And I walked into my room. Less than 2 minutes later, I heard him go downcellar and bring up firewood. I felt really good about asserting myself. :-)

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Tue, 01-17-2006 - 6:01pm

That's interesting.... many of those things describe me.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Tue, 01-17-2006 - 6:14pm
Hmmm... I could always go back, and change my marital status... :-D
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Tue, 01-17-2006 - 6:16pm
Well, it all depends on whether or not you were doing it "for fun" or if you seriously wanted to meet someone.

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Tue, 01-17-2006 - 6:23pm
The transitional boredom would apply here, although I could use some nice male companionship once in a while, LOL
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Tue, 01-17-2006 - 10:30pm

OOOO E Harmony!! My friends use that site and the one has meet a great guy. I took the profile test about a year ago but I heard it has really improved including what type of guy is good for you. We were just talking about taking it again last night.

Now you have my interest peaked just to do the profile...so not wanting to date.

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Tue, 01-17-2006 - 10:34pm
Ha, look at it as window shopping. You don't have to buy, but you can certainly look. Think about it, how many men do you talk to during the day or at work. Have you ever walked away and thought what a great guy he was? Are you planning on dating them, nope, but window shopping.