Leaving a Jealous/Controlling Spouse

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Registered: 07-20-2008
Leaving a Jealous/Controlling Spouse
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Sun, 07-20-2008 - 9:19pm

For 14yrs I have lived with a very jealous and controlling husband.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 07-21-2008 - 3:55pm

You are proably feeling guilty since you have been abused for so many years and he has controlled you that somehow you justify his behavior.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-20-2008
Mon, 07-21-2008 - 4:15pm

Thank you so much for responding, I often feel like I am out here all alone even though I have a supportive family!

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 07-21-2008 - 4:38pm

You have to think about what is more important in the long run--to have an upper class lifestyle but have everyone be unhappy or to lower your std of living a bit and have everyone emotionally healthy?

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-20-2008
Mon, 07-21-2008 - 4:48pm

You are very right in what you say.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-22-2008
Tue, 07-22-2008 - 1:41am

Wow!!! Your life sounds almost like mine. I have a jealous and controlling husband as well and we have been together a little over 8 years. He is nice about everything but when I want to go out or do anything without him he gets mad and says things that bother me or he'll say he had plans for us to do something together. My best friends live 3 hours away and once in a while I like to see them but they cannot stand him because they know I do not deserve to be treated the way my husband treats me. He is very insecure and I am constantly upset over his daily bull about me going to work out or just running errands.


The difference is that my husband has been self-employed 3 times and has not been able to hold down a job for longer than 6 months. He has literally been employed 4 out of the 8 years we have been together. He gambles trying to make a living out of playing poker. He suffers from depression and

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 07-22-2008 - 10:40am

My DS is almost 13 and is a very nice, sensitive kid.

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Registered: 07-20-2008
Mon, 07-28-2008 - 3:24pm

I just want to thank both of you for sharing your life stories with me and I apologize for taking so long in getting back to both of you.