Leftovers, Photos, What did you do with?

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Registered: 09-28-2004
Leftovers, Photos, What did you do with?
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Wed, 07-06-2005 - 4:09pm

Hmm.
I was wondering, what did you do with your photos from your relationship, wedding, etc? I have no one to save them for, as I don't have any children, and I have the fully elaborate wedding package, cost like $800+.
I have disposed of the wedding dress, and certain other things, but I don't know what to do with the fancy photo books and the photos from our time together. Any gifts that he gave me I have already made up my mind if I will keep them or get rid of them, and whether they bother me being in plain view on a daily basis. I've put my rings away, until I can afford to have something made with the diamonds. I am just having a tough time with the pics.

Any advice? Ideas? What did you do?

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Registered: 09-28-2004
Mon, 07-11-2005 - 2:53pm

Wow, everyone has come up with some great ideas... I am taking a bit of advice from here, there, and everywhere!
For now, I have stashed all of the wedding albums etc in a rubbermaid container under the stairs. I looked at more of the photos this weekend. It hurt a bit, but mostly I felt anger and sadness at the loss, and I also felt wonder, at how he could change so fast and so much in such a short period of time! Then I wondered if he hadn't changed at all, but that I had finally taken the rose-colored glasses off and seen him for what he was.
When I look at the wedding photos now, I can't help but see deception in his eyes.

Most of the trinkets and stuff that he bought me I have kept, because I know that most of them didn't involve much effort or thought on his part. I am able to look at them without remorse or much of anything else, either. LOL!
Those that did bother me are stored until I can figure out what the heck I am going to do with them. I tossed some out this weekend, realizing that there was no one to save them for, and there was no secondhand market for them, and I certainly would never ever want to see them again.

I like the idea of Sang's of re-doing the photo albums, tossing out photos of him alone, and any ones that make me feel yucky. I will tackle that in the winter, though, it is just too darn nice out now to be stuck inside. Plus, I was a photo-maniac. I have bazillions. It's gonna take forever. And someone else had the same kind of bridal pkg I had, with five albums full. Yetch. I will go thru them and send him the ones that deal with him and his family, and let him decide what to do with them. If he tosses them out, so be it. Whatever. But it will cut down the amount I have to store. I currently have two of the BIG rubbermaid containers full - gotta do something about that before I move!

About the linens. I also was sleeping under linens (expensive ones) that we had registered for. Actually, we regisetered for them, but no one bought them. I was disappointed, and he went out and purchased them for me for my birthday (actually, he did that with gifts for the next few celebrations. I had already chosen the items, so he figured why not? No thinking on his part). I stored them on the top shelf of my sister's enormous linen closet. She isn't bothered by them, this closet is so big you have to stand on a ladder to get to the top shelf, and I pushed them way to the back. They may still be there a century from now, LOL!

My wedding dress went in the garbage... it was ruined at the wedding. STBX stepped on the train, and tore the back out of the dress... $2000 down the drain. Oh well, tho, that took care of that! The rings, as I said, I am keeping until I can have the stone re-set. My great-aunt left that stone in her will for me, so it really doesn't have much to do with STBX except that my mother gave it to me when we announced our engagement (which is what my great-aunt had asked her to do). It has memories that are much more pleasant than STBX! LOL!

So that is where I stand today... I will probably go thru the photos in the fall/winter, and the other gifts? Can we say GARAGE SALE? LOL! Anybody want a set of cheap Christmas china????

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Registered: 07-31-2004
Mon, 07-11-2005 - 6:59pm

I collected all of the photos, etc. and put them in box. I labeled the box "lauren's memories" for my daughter. I set the box in the attic. Occassionally my daughter will ask about her dad and I will give her info by showing her the photos and such. Since she's so young, she doesn't need this to happen much. However, I figure when she is older, I can give her the stuff so that she can see our wedding and her baby pictures with she and her dad doing the cuddly stuff.

My decision to do this is because the wedding photos cost a fortune so I am not throwing them away and the other stuff now belongs to my daughter.

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