Legal Sep or D Confused!
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Legal Sep or D Confused!
| Mon, 07-11-2005 - 7:22pm |
I am so confused. I don't know if a legal sep would be better or just go for the divorce.
Part of me really just wants it all done and over. Then I will do what I need to do.
Any advantages to a legal sep other than I can remain on medical and auto? (I think auto I have to check) There will be no reconciliation. It will eventually be a divorce. I don;t want to go thru all of this legal stuff 2x. I am in mediation right now. The sep is suppose dto give me a chance to get on my feet while still maintaining benefits etc..My H is excited about the thought. I am 50-50
Part of me really just wants it all done and over. Then I will do what I need to do.
Any advantages to a legal sep other than I can remain on medical and auto? (I think auto I have to check) There will be no reconciliation. It will eventually be a divorce. I don;t want to go thru all of this legal stuff 2x. I am in mediation right now. The sep is suppose dto give me a chance to get on my feet while still maintaining benefits etc..My H is excited about the thought. I am 50-50

Yes it's different everywhere. I life in PA and we don't have legal separation. There are two options, you either agree to divorce and there is a 90 day waiting period from the date you file or one person does not agree and you have to wait 2 years from when you separated.
I don't know about all other states (I think the OP is in NJ), but I do know it varies from place to place.
If he is a controller who will not honor anything you two negotiate, then beware of spending a lot of money on a mediator. It may be a total waste of time and money, and allow your husband to delay the start of any CS or splitting marital assets. If prolonging the process is his goal, then you need to figure out why.
Are you very ill or uninsurable? Have you actually checked to see what kind of medical coverage you can obtain/afford? Have you asked what the COBRA payments would be if you wanted to stay with your current insurer? Do the legwork, so you have all the information you need to make a good decision. You DO need to know if paying for a Separation Agreement and later paying for a divorce is going to cost you ten times what you would have paid for your insurance.
"I am nothing special; of this I am sure. I am a common man with common thoughts, and I've led a common life. There are no monuments dedicated to me and my name will soon be forgotten, but I've loved another with all my heart and soul, and to me, this has always been enough".
hi first;
Yea we are at a stand still because the stbx does not want to pay the amount of alimoney the court decided on and also he only want to pay for x amount of time. so a master needs to be brought in,,so I either shell out $700 for the master ,which I refuse to do not matter how bad I want this over with,and I cant afford it..or we wait for him(sbtx)to suck up and pay for the master.. which considering the amount he is paying me in alimoney,I am surprised he has not gotten a master already..he the stbx seems to think with a master ,he will get the amount reduced..but considering its based on income,,and he makes alot more then I do,,I dont see how the amount will change...
I think maybe the stbx is pre occupied with his new g/f.. its ok for him to go on with his life,,but I just have to sit on my hands and wait before I can move on with mine.
One thing my lawyer said to me.."when your going thru a divorce you throw out all fairness and logic .."
"I am nothing special; of this I am sure. I am a common man with common thoughts, and I've led a common life. There are no monuments dedicated to me and my name will soon be forgotten, but I've loved another with all my heart and soul, and to me, this has always been enough".
"I am nothing special; of this I am sure. I am a common man with common thoughts, and I've led a common life. There are no monuments dedicated to me and my name will soon be forgotten, but I've loved another with all my heart and soul, and to me, this has always been enough".
>>>One thing my lawyer said to me.."when your going thru a divorce you throw out all fairness and logic .."<<<
And unfortunately many attorney's hope for this because it makes them lots of $$$.
"I am nothing special; of this I am sure. I am a common man with common thoughts, and I've led a common life. There are no monuments dedicated to me and my name will soon be forgotten, but I've loved another with all my heart and soul, and to me, this has always been enough".