Let STBX get to me today, & bad news!
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Let STBX get to me today, & bad news!
| Tue, 07-05-2005 - 10:41pm |
I had a bad day today, for a couple reasons - AND for the 1st time in a while, i let him really get to me.


What a beautiful daughter you have!!
I don't know what to say except it is best to not talk to STBX at all, there is nothing he can say to benefit you and most of the time it will get you down. If possible totally avoid him all together. My ex ignores his kids most of the time and when he does call, I have caller ID and I do not answer it (sometimes the kids don't want to either) If he is picking up the kids (which has happened about 4 times in the past 10 months and he lives in the same town I think, nobody really knows where he lives!) I don't go to the door or let him come in! I probably sound so mean but my ex will come in and make himself at home and stay TOO long for my comfort. When he takes the kids (they are 15yo, 13yo and 9yo) he will have them for about and hour and never takes them to his place because nobody can know where he lives, not even his own mother. He is an alcoholic and pot smoker so it's better he doesn't have them too long!
As far as the lawyer goes, mine ignores me too, it took so long that when we finally got to court the judge reprimanded both attorneys for dragging it out. I would call him and get no response, e-mail him with short responses that didn't answer anything. I thin one thing that helped is my Dad went in and said that he had a large payment for him and he would only give it to him if he put my file on top and took care of me now, he agreed and my Dad paid him. Could it be a money issue? Just keep calling and e-mailing him, plead with him to get this done, you need closure. I can't give you alot of good advice only say I have been there!
Something I did also was I bought a little device that records phone conversations, not that you can use it in court or anything but when your STBX acts up on the phone and you get all upset you can listen to it or have someone else listen to it and realize how stupid he really was behaving or figure out how you could have handled it better. You can get one of these at Radio Shack, cheap! It may be illegal where you live but if it's only for you personally I think it's ok. Don't ever tell him you have one.
Hold your heaad up and remember there is an end in sight, it's a rough road but one day you will be done and the bills will be paid and you will be so proud of how you handled things. Congrats on the custody!!! I got FULL custody too!
The plan:
1st, thanks so much for your kind words. & thanks! Averey is adorable ... but she WAS on my LAST nerve ALL DAY today! lol
Youre right, the less contact, the WAY better. I was doing well with that, & SEE what happens when i get into a conversation with him!?