Let's Roll Call...

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Let's Roll Call...
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Sun, 04-02-2006 - 10:29pm

Give us the basics, or as much as you feel comfortable giving... name, location, children, etc...

Tell us a little bit about yourself... what part of the process you're in...

And... one quote or song that has really spoken to you through this process...

*hugs*

Julie

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Tue, 04-04-2006 - 8:18pm

I'm Abby - I am in Idaho. I have a ds who is 6. He's bright and wonderful - and also has some interesting quirks that are sometimes quite a handful to deal with.

My xh and I decided to split in Sept of 2003, divorce was final in December 2003. I think we both wanted it to be over as quickly as possible.

I am in the process of putting my life back together and rediscovering myself. When I became a SAHM, I left behind a career where I was making 50k+ a year - now I am making about 14k+ and going to school part-time as well as taking care of my ds the majority of the time. Sometimes seems like quite a lot to be dealing with, but I am SO MUCH HAPPIER than when I was married!!!

I am also in the process of figuring out how to help my ds adapt to all the changes in his Dad's life - ds will have a new step-mom pretty quick here and my ds is having a very hard time with it. Hopefully, I'll also figure out how to deal with the ex and the soon-to-be-new-wife so that we can co-parent ds in a healthy, cooperative way. I came to this board because I was hoping to find help/support with these issues. You all have been pretty helpful!

Quotes: "If you are going through hell, keep going." Sir Winston Churchill
"Would I rather be right, or be free." From one of the many, many divorce books I've read.

Songs:

I listened to a lot of the songs on Hall & Oates "Do It For Love" and Steve Winwood's "Back in the High Life" - stuff that would help put me back into a good mood. I also liked Maroon 5's "Songs About Jane" and Boz Scaggs "Some Change" - particularly "Sierra". David Pack's "Secret of Moving On" - one of the lines is: "If you don't let go, then you can't leave."

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Tue, 04-04-2006 - 9:08pm

I'm Sarah. I married an alcoholic. My husband and I have been seperated living under the same roof for about six weeks. My STBX is moving out gradually this week, and Friday I will spend my first night officially alone. I have two daughters, Hannah is 5.5 and Abbi is almost 4. We are from northern Ohio.
I am still at the bottom. I am still at the point where I think I can't go on, and I feel like I've ruined my children. But I see a tiny little spot of light at the end of the tunnel, and I hope it gets brighter every day.
My current song on repeat is "Held" by Natalie Grant.

This is what it means, to be held, to have the sacred torn from your life and you survive, that is what is is to be loved and to know that the promise is was when everything fell, you'd be held.

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Tue, 04-04-2006 - 9:13pm

I am Crystal, my two year old daughter and I live in VA right now. We will be moving to NC in a little over a month.
We are in the separation process. We co-existed for a month and a half and then I asked him to leave 2 weeks ago. We will both be relocating in about a month and it's looking like we both will be heading to NC...about 5 hours apart. He's in the military and getting orders and I'm moving about 30 minutes from family in NC.
We have always had a very high drama relationship and this divorce is one of the biggest dramas of the whole relationship. It wouldn't be like us not to end on an extra dramatic note...unfortunately.
I have a good feeling that once we get through these initial transitions we will be able to successfully raise our daughter together.

Sarah Evans - While You Were Cheating

And believe it or not...the quote that is helping me get through is mine and the stbx's quote that we have always said while he was on deployments, having hard times, in labor, etc.
"This too will come to pass"

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Wed, 04-05-2006 - 9:12am
I like that quote!

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Wed, 04-05-2006 - 9:19am

Have you heard the new (country) Rodney Atkins song, "If You're Going Through Hell"?


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Wed, 04-05-2006 - 9:25am

I love Sara Evans.... and that song!


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Wed, 04-05-2006 - 5:31pm

Hi, Im Sherell, I live in new york, 30 years old. It's been 2 years now since it was over. Emotionally Ive come a long way and on a whole I feel damn good about it being over. Sometimes I still think of the broken promises and dreams but I wouldnt go back for nothing. He's a loser for sure. But I will always be thankful that he gave me my son. Him I love dearly and he is my everything.

One of my songs that really that got me through the rough times was Karma by: Alica Keys.

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Registered: 04-04-2006
Wed, 04-05-2006 - 6:01pm

Hi! Im new too. I posted my first post yesterday titled "Im pissed" its a long read but will give you the ends and outs of what is going on. My husband approached the divorce subject last Monday. He moves out tomorrow into an apartment. He is actually on his way over to start packing any minute. I feel like I am doing the right thing but am not feeling confident today. Please send me good thoughts. Write me anytime!

THings will get better for you! You are sticking to your guns this time and that takes guts! Just hang in there!

Patches

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Registered: 11-18-2003
Thu, 04-06-2006 - 3:54am

Hey it's me Lexi checking in from Hawaii.

Hugs~ Lexi

"Shoot for the moon and if you miss you will still be among the stars" ~ Les Brown


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Thu, 04-06-2006 - 10:28am

Craig Wiseman, who wrote Live Like You Were Dying, is going to be the guest speaker at Brooke's school's Literary Evening later this month.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~