"Limited Divorce"--anyone familiar??
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"Limited Divorce"--anyone familiar??
| Tue, 10-25-2005 - 11:23am |
I have been doing my divorce research--I do not want my marriage to end--I want it to work out. I have heard about a "limited divorce"--I am consulting my lawyer tomorrow for further details, but wanted to find out if anyone had dealt with this type of situation. It states in the limited divorce info that I have found that the court would order reconciliation efforts--what would you consider that to be?? I'm thinking definitely counseling, but not sure what else. Anyone have any thoughts.

I've never heard of it...... interesting.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Karen ~ wildlucky4me
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
<<" The court can require that the parties participate in reconciliation efforts".>>
While the courts may be able to make him participate, they can't make him want to participate. I don't think a reconciliation can be successful unless both parties want it and are willing to put 100% effort into saving the marriage. I definitely think it's a good idea to sit down and discuss with your husband how you're both feeling and what you want to happen. If you can sit down and discuss things rationally, there may be some hope for salvaging the marriage through counselling. But if your goal is a reconciliation, I'd be cautious about making threats or trying to force a reconciliation legally. If he's angry and resentful of you, he is less likely to participate and can justify to himself why he needs his 'friend.'
Wishing you the best.
-sang
He will also be going to OB appointments with me for the baby. In the 6 weeks we will jointly discuss and reevaluate our situation and go from there one way or another.
I obviously am praying for the best--but only God actually knows what will happen.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
I'm glad to hear your discussion went so well. It sounds like there are enough feelings left between the two of you that counselling is the right route. It won't be easy - it will be tough for him to address his mistakes and what's behind them, and for you to regain trust in him. But I think any time there's a possibility of saving a marriage you owe it to each other to explore it. If it doesn't work out, then you will know you tried everything you could. And if you can work through this, you will probably come through it a stronger couple. Sending good thoughts your way.
-sang