Livid

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Registered: 07-02-2008
Livid
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Mon, 08-18-2008 - 10:38pm
So, STBX stopped by tonight. We were talking and I was very honest with him. I told him I felt betrayed that he hired a lawyer and that I was being served with divorce papers (tomorrow). I told him it was humiliating. I then asked if there was anything I should know about before getting those damned papers. He said no, but then later casually mentions that he's petitioning for primary residence of our daughter! I'm so livid! I cannot believe the nerve! We were actually trying to work out an arrangement of our own and I asked yesterday if he'd like to have her this weekend and he said he couldn't b/c he has a football game this weekend (high school at that). So, basically he doesn't even have time for her now, but he has the nerve to do that, just to hurt me! I don't have a lawyer, but so help me God I will tomorrow. I do not want to fight, but he has crossed a line. Ladies, please let me know- can I request that he help pay my legal fees (he makes 75% more than me). Is he likely to get primary custody? Also, I have photos of the bruises he left on my arms the week before last. Didn't have the nerve of the guts to press charges but I thought it needed to be documented. I also have documented proof that he spent her school clothes money on VIDEO GAMES! This was money I earned by selling the majority of my clothes on Ebay, because I knew we didn't have the resources to buy them ourselves, since I was the only one bringing in any income for 2 months- he decided yet again to change jobs again and we had to pay for the financial burden. I have more tales of his abuse and irresponsibility and somehow through the grief, anger, and sadness I have it all documented. Do I have a strong case against him? Jesus-I didn't want it to be like this.
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Registered: 03-30-2008
In reply to: mandi_d_o
Tue, 08-19-2008 - 5:37am
In my experience, you absolutely can request that he pay attorney & court fees. I know in my case it's written in the filing papers I reviewed yesterday from my attorney. Now, whether I'll get that in the long run remains to be seen, but yes, you can request it, especially with the difference in your incomes as you stated. GL. Hang in there.
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In reply to: mandi_d_o
Thu, 08-21-2008 - 8:44pm

Have you had a chance to speak to an attorney yet?


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 07-02-2008
In reply to: mandi_d_o
Sat, 08-23-2008 - 5:33pm
I talked to someone at Colorado Legal Services, and with my income I do qualify for legal help, but approval is still pending on whether or not they can take my case. If they cannot take my case I will find an attorney and figure out how to pay. On lawyer I spoke to said it's a necessity that I have a lawyer since my ex has one as well. I've also heard from some people that his lawyer can be quite nasty and "uncooperative", whatever that means. Although a teacher I work with asked her aunt who has been an office manager for a group of lawyers for over 30 years about this lawyer, and the aunt and her co-workers were all in agreement that he was a slime ball lawyer and not recommendable.