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Lonely
| Wed, 06-06-2007 - 10:36pm |
I'm just having a really lonely day today. It's been almost 6 months since my stbxh dropped the bomb. I've been doing really well and realize that I am sooo much better off without him but today I just feel sad and lonely. I don't want him back but I just miss having someone. It doesn't help that he already moved on to someone else (before our marriage ended I might add). I have my girls and I'm so grateful for them but it's just not the same. I guess I just came here for some cheering up. Thanks!

I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling down today. It has been 6 months since STBX and I separated as well. It's shocking how fast the time goes.
I suppose these moments of loneliness are good in that they give us an opportunity to heal and prepare for the next phase in life. Maybe it would be helpful to make plans to get out with friends and go somewhere public? Perhaps it's time to start actively considering preparing for meeting new people (or a new man)?
I'm glad you came here to share how you're feeling. I can't imagine there is anyone here who hasn't felt the way you do today. I hope you feel better soon.
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I have no wonderful words of advice. Just wanted to give you a hug. Unfortunately, we convince ourselves that having someone is better than having no one even when it's not true. It's hard but concentrate on the good things because he is gone.
My stbx left me too. It's easier for them to move on because they were already in divorce mind set long before they told us they were leaving. While it's only been 5 months for you, it has probably been many more for him.
gr9fulmom1 - how'd you get so smart. I've been living alone ( I am the one that moved out) for 10 months. And I get really lonely. No children at home, found out who my friends are (few) and no "boyfriend". Hubby told me a year ago our marriage has been over for seven years, that I just don't want to admit it. After 32 years of marriage. Guess that's why he doesn't get lonely - he hasn't been contributing to our marriage or happiness for at least seven years. It's only been 10 months for me.
I can't get anybody to come to a pity party, so me and the dog have a good cry and go to bed early. A lot of prayer helps, knowing God will take care of me and this marriage in His way, in His time.
Hugs to you
T.