mommytoisaac.... I'm experiencing the same thing. I'm now two months since he's moved out and its hard. Somedays I seem like all is okay but then something will trigger sadness and I just feel like crying. Even though I know its better he's gone, I just feel so lonely and alone. Somedays the journaling helps to get all the feelings out and try to understand what is it that is making me lonely. Some days, like suggested by others on this board, its good to type it all out. I just hanging onto the thought that someday it will get better. Someday it will be easier. I take it a day at a time. The message board really helps, as it shows we are not the only ones going through it. So you are not alone. I'm with you and we're all with you. Know that you CAN do this. Concentrate on yourself. On making yourself feel better, both physically and emotionally, and also concentrate on your son. On how you are going to make a better life for him. That should help on somedays :-)
Oh, yeah... I understand the loneliness. Going through it too. It's been a month since he declared he doesn't want to be married anymore, and coming home just sucks. I keep reminding myself what I still have and try not to concentrate on what I've lost. All those thoughts of what could have been, should have been, would have been, keep coming back though.
I miss adult conversation after the boys are put to bed, snuggling before going to sleep, going to movies (other than rated G), and going out to dinner. I don't really have any friends to call up so that makes it all the harder. Last weekend he picked the boys up on Friday and I cried for so long. I've never been by myself. I was always with the boys, or out on a date with my husband if the kids weren't with us. This is going to take some time to get used to all this.
I know it will get better. This board helps alot. I work full time so I do get to see coworkers, but it's at night that loneliness really gets to me. I guess we need to concentrate on making a new life for ourselves and children. Take care, we'll get through this.
I'm experiencing the same thing. I'm now two months since he's moved out and its hard. Somedays I seem like all is okay but then something will trigger sadness and I just feel like crying. Even though I know its better he's gone, I just feel so lonely and alone. Somedays the journaling helps to get all the feelings out and try to understand what is it that is making me lonely. Some days, like suggested by others on this board, its good to type it all out. I just hanging onto the thought that someday it will get better. Someday it will be easier. I take it a day at a time. The message board really helps, as it shows we are not the only ones going through it.
So you are not alone. I'm with you and we're all with you. Know that you CAN do this.
Concentrate on yourself. On making yourself feel better, both physically and emotionally, and also concentrate on your son. On how you are going to make a better life for him.
That should help on somedays :-)
Oh, yeah... I understand the loneliness. Going through it too. It's been a month since he declared he doesn't want to be married anymore, and coming home just sucks. I keep reminding myself what I still have and try not to concentrate on what I've lost. All those thoughts of what could have been, should have been, would have been, keep coming back though.
I miss adult conversation after the boys are put to bed, snuggling before going to sleep, going to movies (other than rated G), and going out to dinner. I don't really have any friends to call up so that makes it all the harder. Last weekend he picked the boys up on Friday and I cried for so long. I've never been by myself. I was always with the boys, or out on a date with my husband if the kids weren't with us. This is going to take some time to get used to all this.
I know it will get better. This board helps alot. I work full time so I do get to see coworkers, but it's at night that loneliness really gets to me. I guess we need to concentrate on making a new life for ourselves and children. Take care, we'll get through this.
Tonight I wanted to go eat sushi (or any "adult" food) and was sad to realize that I couldn't just call him up and tell him to meet me somewhere.