Lord help me get through the weekend

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Lord help me get through the weekend
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Tue, 07-05-2005 - 11:28pm

without killing anyone.... xh has decided he is coming into town to see ds play teeball this weekend... good for ds, i think (except he hasn't seen xh since December)... rough on me... (his being out of state makes is so much easier to live my life)... I am over the two of us, but still carry such anger at him for the way he treats ds... or rather, the way he ignores ds...

My mom normally goes to the games with me, along with xh's mom and aunt... my mom has to work this weekend so she will be unable to attend... I am trying to get a friend of mine to go with me this weekend, to act as a buffer...

I can say, that for once, xh did call and advise me of his plans, instead of just surprising everyone, like he did for ds' birthday last year... but I am really dreading this weekend and would really appreciate any stay calm thoughts you may have...

*hugs*

Julie and Joey

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Wed, 07-06-2005 - 2:22am
Good luck at the game! Just hold your head high and be proud of that sweet little boy. Don't let him get you down and if ex tries to cause any problems, refuse to join in! Have fun! Nancy
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Wed, 07-06-2005 - 9:13am
Hang in there, Julie.... I'll send you some good vibes!


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Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Wed, 07-06-2005 - 10:54am
Julie, it can be hard but you can get through it. Trust me, been there, done that...live through it every day.
I live in a small town with not one, but now TWO ex husbands !!
I have no family here at all so have to endure every ball game, hockey game, etc in their presence...along with first ex's obnoxious wife and recent ex's entire family. To make things even better, first ex's sons play hockey with my kids....so they are on the same team, at the games, practices, etc even though our daughter is now 20 years old and no longer involved in sports....so, it never ends !
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Wed, 07-06-2005 - 1:43pm

Awwww, hugs sweetie.


Good luck and remember, atleast he is coming. Joey will be happy he is there.


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Wed, 07-06-2005 - 9:50pm

My thoughts are with you Julie. Keep calm. Look your best. Act happy. Realize that Joey *may* run to him and try to impress him. Dont let that upset you.


I'm usually in this boat. My ex came to 2 out of like 20 games for Jacob==no practices. When he's there, he's acts like he's "super dad" and of course, jacob wants to impress him. Sometimes it hurts-*I* am the one always there. I've never missed a game. I try not to let it bother me-Jacob, and everyone else, knows who's the one truly there for Jacob.


I did ban PS right after mothers day. He hadnt come to any of Jacobs games/practices-but ALL of Joshuas games and practices. Jacob said he feels invisible. Their bond is shaky already. So I banned him. He stayed away for 4 weeks. I let him back and he still doesn't come to many (he came to 2 of Jacob's after I released the ban). He didnt come to his championship game, didnt come to yesterdays tournament. he was there tonight and I just ignored him.


Heck, at least your ex has a reason for not being there. Mine

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