Losing my Best Friend

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Registered: 01-06-2008
Losing my Best Friend
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Sun, 01-06-2008 - 7:30pm
Before the first of the year my husband said he wanted a separation. He said he didn't love me anymore. We talked about going to counseling and he agreed. Then, this past week he said he didn't want too and that he wants a divorce. He says he hasn't been happy for a long time. For the past few days I've been playing our relationship over and over and over in my head. He's been staying with his parents because I don't have anywhere to go. Now I'm sitting here alone, in our house, and I'm so sad and the only person I want to talk to his him - my best friend. The person who made me believe in love again (this was a second marriage for me). I'm sure once I get counseling and eventually when things are finalized and all that stuff I'll be strong and blah, blah, blah. However, right now I'm so so sad and I want this all to go away. I'm so angry at him for taking his love away without giving us a chance to work on things. I don't know who I'm going to make it through this.
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Sun, 01-06-2008 - 11:19pm

Hey.... it's devastating when they won't try to work on the relationship.... the investment.... but unfortunately, we can't make them.


I initially spent a lot of time journaling (getting my feelings out on paper.... or via my keyboard :-)


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Mon, 01-07-2008 - 6:29am

I know what you are talking about, losing your best friend. My wife of 23 years told me Dec 18 that she doesn't love me and wants a divorce. I have no chance of reconciliation due to the fact I am currently in Iraq. I had no one to talk with and it was really hard for the first week, but luckily my soldiers helped me pull my head out of my butt and continue marching. The few things I have realized to this point is, She was my best friend, but obviously I wasn't Hers. But understanding that fact, it helped me to put things in persective. I will not be with anyone that doesn't want to be in a relationship with me. I suggest as hard as it may be, stop dwelling and start moving on, find new friends to talk with, and don't talk about all the depressing things all the time. Its not fair to your new friends, they know you are hurting and will help you move on, without dwelling on the past and what could have been.

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Registered: 10-25-2006
Mon, 01-07-2008 - 8:55am

Karen,


I read that book...it was a good one!


CL-Wisdomtooth2020

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Registered: 08-24-2004
Mon, 01-07-2008 - 9:01am

I'm reading your post and its exactly my life.


I lost my best friend too, my ex. We were best friends more than anything. I sometimes sit alone at night and cry because of it all. I miss our laughs and sillyness.

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Registered: 01-07-2008
Mon, 01-07-2008 - 6:33pm
I also just lost my best friend and I feel incomplete again.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 01-07-2008 - 7:42pm

I, like all of you, lost my best friend also.