Hi. Are (were) the children with their father for the weekend? If so, then its time for you to take responsibility for how you'll spend your time when they are. If you have a planned visitation schedule then you know when they'll be gone and where. So time to take care of yourself by making plans for the days they aren't with you. Start small. You don't have to leave town. Make a list of things to do: small and large. Plan a shopping trip (even if its groceries). Try a new recipe. See what's happening in your community and invite a friend to peruse a flea market, take in a movie, or have lunch.
Check your local community park or community college for weekend events. Perhaps there is an exercise class, painting/pottery/book club/5K race/hobby group/etc. etc that may be fun and interesting. It will also help you meet new people; others who like doing the same things you do.
Trust me. You'll be happier and so will your children. Look upon it as a break rather than a punishment and both you and your kids will feel better about these visits.
Good luck. Get going!
CL-Wisdomtooth2020
Some commonly misspelled words on this board:
You're = contraction of "you are"; You're going away?
The first time DD was away from me for the day, I came home from work...sat down, looked around, stayed for about 10 minutes...then I went back to work.
{{Sending hugs to you! - B?}}
~Hurtnlost
Edited 5/5/2008 10:53 am ET by hurtnlost
Tom,
Hi. Are (were) the children with their father for the weekend? If so, then its time for you to take responsibility for how you'll spend your time when they are. If you have a planned visitation schedule then you know when they'll be gone and where. So time to take care of yourself by making plans for the days they aren't with you. Start small. You don't have to leave town. Make a list of things to do: small and large. Plan a shopping trip (even if its groceries). Try a new recipe. See what's happening in your community and invite a friend to peruse a flea market, take in a movie, or have lunch.
Check your local community park or community college for weekend events. Perhaps there is an exercise class, painting/pottery/book club/5K race/hobby group/etc. etc that may be fun and interesting. It will also help you meet new people; others who like doing the same things you do.
Trust me. You'll be happier and so will your children. Look upon it as a break rather than a punishment and both you and your kids will feel better about these visits.
Good luck. Get going!
CL-Wisdomtooth2020
Some commonly misspelled words on this board:
You're = contraction of "you are"; You're going away?
CL-Wisdomtooth2020
The first time DD was away from me for the day, I came home from work...sat down, looked around, stayed for about 10 minutes...then I went back to work.
It's okay to jump...you have wings!
To move forward...you have to stop looking back.