Lost and Confused
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Lost and Confused
| Mon, 03-19-2007 - 10:07am |
I am so confused and lost. Spouse came to me two months ago and stated that he wanted a divorce. We have been married for three years (no children). Stated that he no longer was "in love" with me. We had recently moved for his job and therefore I had nothing in the state we were currently in therefore I moved. The whole time he was adament about the divorce. Then a week ago (when he found out I was moving back to Dallas) he called me crying and stated he wanted me to come back so we could try and work things out. Stupid me came back and the next day he stated "he was not ready". I am so confused. I don't know this man. I had canceled everything to come back and try and save my marriage and then I get abandoned all over again. Has anyone else been through anything similiar? What did you do? I feel like he has thrown me into a double depression. I have found all these websites about getting on with your life, but what about the feelings that happen when the divorce word is first spoken?

Your story is very similar to mine so I can relate to how it feels to be given hope and then have it yanked away. It's very hard to deal with, especially in the beginning of a separation or divorce (or when your XH comes around telling you he wants to try again, then backs off because he doesn't know if he wants his current GF or you - as in my case - we've been divorced nearly 2 years!!). You just need to do what is best for YOU! If he cannot decide, as hard as that is, you need to make decisions that affect only your life, not his. I was given very good advice a long time ago...you cannot control the actions of others; you can only control your actions/reactions to them.
Don't ever think you are stupid for having hope... because without hope what else do we have in this world?
Good luck to you!
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Ali
Thanks Ali, I needed to hear that. Sometimes you know that's what you need to do but it helps to hear other individuals say that you're doing the right thing. And your right, what else would we have without hope!!
take care.