Lost and Confused (long)
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Lost and Confused (long)
| Wed, 03-19-2008 - 5:36pm |
After lurking for a few days, I think I have finally drummed up enough courage to post my questions and thoughts with hopes that you can offer some advise.
Saturday (Mar. 15) I received via certified mail papers that my husband of 10 1/2 years is wanting a divorce. I have gotten myself into a financial situation and now they (creditor) is coming after my husband. He and his attorney have been working on this and he is telling me next to nothing as to what is going on. Thursday, we had a brief discussion about the seriousness of the situation and he (hubby) told me not worry that he would take care of it. And that he would always take care of me and our 2 kids (ages 9 & 5). He's even mentioned that he's looking for a new house. When he asked me what I thought about a divorce to clear up my financial problem, I told him no that I did not want a divorce. Our kids are equally attached to us and they would be devastated. After that, nothing else was said. That night he left town on business (he's in the music biz and travels 160 days a year and I am a stay at home mom with zero income). Then Saturday morning it was ding dong, "You've been served". So I emailed to let him know that the papers from his attorney arrived. He emailed back saying that "We'll talk when I get back". Well, it's been 3 days and he's yet to say a word. Now for the strange part, he's still living in the house with me and the kids. Still sleeping in the same bed with me (yet as far away from me as possible). Daily life is still as normal as possible considering the fact he wants a divorce. He's implied that the divorce will be on paper only and we'll reconcile as soon as my financial mess is cleared up. I am loosing my mind trying to figure out what the heck is going on!
Does anyone have any advice as to what to do? I haven't contacted an attorney yet because I don't the money to retain one but I don't want to get messed over. I hope my story makes sense. Thanks for listening.
Edited 3/19/2008 7:12 pm ET by iammommyto2
Saturday (Mar. 15) I received via certified mail papers that my husband of 10 1/2 years is wanting a divorce. I have gotten myself into a financial situation and now they (creditor) is coming after my husband. He and his attorney have been working on this and he is telling me next to nothing as to what is going on. Thursday, we had a brief discussion about the seriousness of the situation and he (hubby) told me not worry that he would take care of it. And that he would always take care of me and our 2 kids (ages 9 & 5). He's even mentioned that he's looking for a new house. When he asked me what I thought about a divorce to clear up my financial problem, I told him no that I did not want a divorce. Our kids are equally attached to us and they would be devastated. After that, nothing else was said. That night he left town on business (he's in the music biz and travels 160 days a year and I am a stay at home mom with zero income). Then Saturday morning it was ding dong, "You've been served". So I emailed to let him know that the papers from his attorney arrived. He emailed back saying that "We'll talk when I get back". Well, it's been 3 days and he's yet to say a word. Now for the strange part, he's still living in the house with me and the kids. Still sleeping in the same bed with me (yet as far away from me as possible). Daily life is still as normal as possible considering the fact he wants a divorce. He's implied that the divorce will be on paper only and we'll reconcile as soon as my financial mess is cleared up. I am loosing my mind trying to figure out what the heck is going on!
Does anyone have any advice as to what to do? I haven't contacted an attorney yet because I don't the money to retain one but I don't want to get messed over. I hope my story makes sense. Thanks for listening.
Edited 3/19/2008 7:12 pm ET by iammommyto2

******************************************* “Insanity: doing the same thing over and over againIammommy,
There are other ways to address financial problems other than a divorce. Have you taken your problem to a credit counselor? Depending on the amount of debt (unsecured or secured) and what the household income is, there are solutions.
Your husband's proposal of divorce makes me think he believes if he divorces you that he won't have to pay any of your debt. Not true! In many states both spouses shoulder a portion of the debt accumulated during a marriage. It doesn't matter if it's your debt or his debt. The state views it as joint debt.
It's possible you're husband is having an affair. It's possible he's just trying to wiggle out of his share of
CL-Wisdomtooth2020
This is totally illogical to me.