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Lost in Love
| Thu, 07-12-2007 - 4:25pm |
On July 6, 2007 My husband woke-up, went to the gym, returned home to get ready for work, gave me a kiss and a hug and said I love you, then he went to his office. Two hours later he told me via Windows Live Messenger that he no longer is in love with me. I was floored! He said that he was shocked as well. That he didn't know that was going to happen. He has been married before (3 times) and has never been married for more than four years. I have always told him that when we got to our five year anniversary that I would be able to relax. The thing about July 6, 2007 is that it was three weeks before our fifth anniversary, July 27. I'm lost. Between us we have five children. Corey age 20, Megan age 19, Natasha age 18, Matt age 14, and Alexander age 4. I thought we were going to be Sam and Stefanie forever. How does someone just wake up and stop loving someone they seemed to be happy with?
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| Thu, 07-12-2007 - 9:18pm |
I'm so sorry you are going through this. I heard it also. My husband of 18 years told me one night that he no longer loved me as a wife, only a family member. Actually he said he never loved me as a wife, only felt the need to "rescue" me from my parents. I then heard that he wanted a divorce, but wanted to stay living in the house with me and my 16 y.o. daughter. I know what you are going through right now. Its awful. You don't know if you are coming or going, whether to cry or just feel numb. There are alot of us on this board going through the same thing right now. Have you thought about counseling? We tried marriage counseling, but my husband decided, when the counselor told him she thought he was bipolar, that he wouldn't go anymore. But, the one-on-one counseling has helped me alot. Hang in there.
| Fri, 07-13-2007 - 7:21pm |
I know what you are going through. On January 30th, my husband told me that he did not love me anymore. This was one week before our 16th anniversary. He had just told me that morning that he loved me on his way to work. Actually, on the exact day of our anniversary was when he said he wanted the divorce. I thought it was just going to be a separation. He has wonderful timing. Of course, 5 months later he has already dated and I am still reeling from all of it! Some days I just sit and wonder what did I really see in him. He has been such a jerk. I am a person who avoids conflict at all costs and this divorce is very painful. This Tuesday is mediation and he has already said that we will go to court because he wants the kids 3 days a week. That way he has a reduction in child support. It's amazing how he spent no time with them when we were married but now wants them 3 days a week.
