A lot of us.....

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Registered: 03-31-2003
A lot of us.....
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Tue, 07-17-2007 - 1:25pm
are so much alike. I swear I keep hearing my story over and over again. Especially the part about the stbx abandoning 90% of responsibility on us (kids, money, etc.) and how they are having the time of their life now. I remember one arguement stbx and I had where I said *I* was going to leave, that I needed some time to myself...boy did he blow up, saying how could I screw him over like that, he couldn't take care of the kids AND work....it's all so clear now! Because obviousely it's simple for me, he didn't 'screw me over' when he left me for another woman, not paying a dime in support for his children for the past 2 months, and barely seeing his children....nope, I must be special.
But you know what? Let him have his fun, let him shirk his responsibilities. And in the end, *I* am going to be the one that can say I did it. Me, alone, I did this all on my own. And in the end, I will be stronger because of it.
So THANK YOU stbx, for showing me what a loser you are, and just how strong I can be.
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Registered: 10-09-2003
Tue, 07-17-2007 - 3:21pm
You go! And that is a good way of thinking about it. My stbx is the same way...I feel so frustrated because it's just not fair! But, you are absolutely right...in the end, they will be the ones who are missing out. And we will be the ones with peace of mind that we were there for our kids.

Katy

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Registered: 02-23-2007
Tue, 07-17-2007 - 3:47pm
I do see my story over and over again. I also see these "spouses" making decisions and then whining about the consequences while we find the strength and wisdom needed to pick up the pieces and rebuild better lives for ourselves and our kids.
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 07-17-2007 - 3:55pm
You GO Girl!.... that's the only way you can think about it... and survive it.

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~