Lovely. I just

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Lovely. I just
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Mon, 03-14-2005 - 9:19pm

From an atty i havent yet met, a partner in my attys practice - mine is away till March 21.


The Temporary orders WERE signed by the judge today, i got the file via email today, showing the judges signature which means my RO is back in effect, i

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Registered: 07-14-2003
In reply to: rlch
Tue, 03-15-2005 - 8:19am
Keep us posted. Best of luck.
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In reply to: rlch
Tue, 03-15-2005 - 11:06am

TWO WORDS ... Yes, i didnt sleep last nite, i got a sitter last minute, & got up & dressed (look damn good too, if i do say so myself!) & got to court for 8:45 am over TWO WORDS in the orders. It says "Temproary Sole Custody" ... STBX's atty (btw, M wasnt even there) said he didnt agree to that but as long as the wording was changed to "Temporary Sole Custody WITHOUT PREJUDICE" it would be accetable ... so who KNOWS what those 2 words cost me in atty fees! Sheesh. I guess they felt that when we do final orders, at SOME point down the road, it would be less likely i would be awarded sole custody. Which, based on his history, I will be shooting for - w/ visitation based on his mental status. But we will cross THAT bridge when we come to it. I dont even think STBX knew about this today. I think it was just his atty tweaking things.

One good thing did come out of it. M's atty, who is a childhood freind of his, was very nice to me. & he assurred me that he would "get M to the meeting w/ CFS tonite about the visitation issue" & also that he would "tell him he had better calm down & keep it under control". I said "Well, after last Thurs visit, i wont let Averey see him until this therapist tells us all its safe, I wont put her thrut hat again, ever". & he said "What happened that nite?" So ... from MY mouth he got the REAL story - b/c i am sure M didnt tell him the details. He seemed pretty po'd at M & said "That wont happen again" & i said "Well, i hope not b/c NEXT time he will be arressted b/c the RO is back in effect".

HA!


Thank you all for your thoughts

R~

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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: rlch
Wed, 03-16-2005 - 9:13am
Wow... What a fiasco... and how sad that now, since he knows that he'd better watch himself, that he's probably going to be manipulative on the sly with Averey, like he was doing on the phone.

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 03-15-2004
In reply to: rlch
Wed, 03-16-2005 - 9:27am

I know - & i just remembered - the other thing he said on the phone, as she was chatting away HAPPILY, b/c she she FIVE & watching the Disney channel! is "You sound happy, are you happy? I hope youre happy Averey". As *IF* he was passive agressinvely saying it to me, thru her "Are you happy? I hope you are .... b/c i am miserbale".

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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: rlch
Wed, 03-16-2005 - 9:48am

Well, he's found out that being aggressive hasn't gotten him what he wanted, so now he'll play the depressed/sympathy route... and *if* he should chose to hurt himself, then that's all his choice.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~