Maintaining relationship with kids
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| Sun, 10-02-2005 - 3:40pm |
My ex has a girlfriend since June that my kids are more and more involved with. They seem to like her a lot, at least my girls do anyway. My issue is that they are going to be more prone to living with "them" when the time comes that he's going to move in with her.
My issue is that she doesn't spend a lot of time with them (every other weekend) and of course she's nice to them, and I'm the mean one that makes them clean their rooms and brush their teeth. She has a nice house and makes more money then me, she's a geneticist and I'm just an RN. So I see my kids slanting more toward living with them and I don't want that. How do I cope with it?
I try to do as much as I can for my kids and it seems like I only have the chance to provide the basics such as food, clothing and shelter and making sure they go to the doctor and dentist. I keep them with me when I have extra days off and vacations. I am having a money crunch right now due to fixing my house and the increase in the price of oil, gas and water and sewer. I took them to the fair even though I should have spent the money on something more practical and I rented a camp at the beginning of the summer and that money would have paid for a lot of my oil for the year.
It just seems that I go out of my way to do extras and it's never enough and that he's always going to win. I feel like I'm losing my 8-year-old daughter especially because she seems to really like his new GF. The thought of him taking my child and moving 45 minutes away just makes me so angry!

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I'm glad there's someone out there that understands where I'm coming from. When my X and I agreed to divorce he told me before he left that he wasn't going to make it easy for me and he's certainly doing that. He says that my working isn't in the kids' best interest and will confide in my son that I'm selfish for working at the hospital.
I don't really mind that my oldest wants to be with his father, they are close. BUT it effects the other kids. My youngest is 8 and anytime she gets mad at me for not letting her do what she wants she threatens to go live with her father "because Chris is". Grrr.
Well, not that it's the same situation, but my ex doesn't encourage it at all and my 5 year old also threatens to go live with her dad full time when she's not getting her way and is mad at me.
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