Making my prediction
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| Sun, 07-03-2005 - 4:02am |
I am making my prediction early, H has either found some one that he wants to start an affair with our has already started having one. He travels every weekend and the last couple of times that he has went to this certain town I have had issues with him not getting ahold of me. His behavior is exactly how he was with earlier Affair. Very hateful,cold and just sudden acting like there has never been any good in our marriage. But he is one that he will deny anything, even with obvious proof. Last time I got her phone call after she got dumped by him. Anyway, just really wish he would be honest and tell me whats up.
I think he wants to push me into filing for divorce. I honestly think that way he can try to get around feeling guilty for leaving our family and potentially sending me back to work since I am a stay at home mom. H has always put everything on me when it comes to our life. Anything goes wrong with the house, I have to fix it or hire some one to. He wont even mow the lawn or take out trash. I know this may sound kind of weird, but I have issues for being the one filing for divorce and part of me thinks it is the easy way out that he wants. I am just so confused, part of me wants to be free to move on with my life. But the other part of me just says wait it out and make him file and take the initiative. part of me feels like since he hasnt participated all that much in the marriage that the least he could do is make the effort himself to get out. Either way I am going to be sad and he is usually out of town 3 or 4 days a week anyway.
Any advice here would be greatly appreciated.

(((hugs))) My advice? He is suppossedly a husband & father - yet he is unfaithful, he seems like he is never home, but when he is, he blames you for everything, he takes advantage of you, he doesnt contribute or take any repsonsibility ....
Hugs, hannah. I understand the feeling of wanting to make him be the one to file. But he's shown that he's ok with the unhealthy status quo you have right now - you could be waiting a long time before he'll actually go through with filing. You can't make him do the right thing and be honest and/or file for divorce. But if you are unhappy, you can take control of your own life. Think about what is best for you and your children. If you think there is a chance that the marriage could be salvaged, then you might want to explore the option of marital counselling. If you feel that is not right for you anymore, then do what is best for you and file. Don't worry that you're doing what he wants or doesn't want - do what you need to do for you and your children.
-sang