Making vacation plans without STBX

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Making vacation plans without STBX
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Wed, 01-10-2007 - 8:40pm

I would like your opinion on this recent situation.

H told me last week that he would be gone this coming weekend (visiting OW). I decided last night to call my FIL and ask if we (me and the kids) could come up and visit. He lives in a rural area and its a nice place to relax. We confirmed the plans today. H called me (he is out of town last night and tonight with OW) to tell me it was 'inappropriate' for me to take the kids to his family's for a visit (FIL must have called him). I told him he had already made plans to be gone so I decided to make my own plans. I thought it was pretty funny suddently he was laying claims to people. FIL has made it clear that he doesn't want to be in the middle, so I am looking forward to not having to think about it over the weekend.

Edited to add that I have always had a great relationship with h's family. We always celebrate holidays together. My MIL and I used to make all the arrangements for visits etc. She died this past spring, so now I deal directly with FIL.

Now SIL and her grandchildren are coming up for part of the weekend, so we will have a bunch of little kids playing together. It will be fun!

Mary




Edited 1/11/2007 11:28 am ET by threenme
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Registered: 12-28-2006
Thu, 01-11-2007 - 8:38am

I am making plans but not with the in-laws. I loved my MIL. But of course last I spoke to her she accused me of snubbing her because I chose to do needlepoint to relax. As if I had to give her my undivided attention.

Anyway, since I am the one who is leaving H, the IL's wouldn't be very accepting of me anyway. However, I have made plans to continue my tradition of vacationing with my brother's family.

H and I separated 6 weeks ago. I feel what I choose to do is no longer his business unless it involves his visitation with the children... and the divorce proceedings of course.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Fri, 01-12-2007 - 9:53pm

I hope that your weekend goes well and is fun and relaxing.


STBX has a lot of nerve asking you anything.... especially while he's off with OW.

Karen ~ wildlucky4me


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~