Making very slow progress

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Making very slow progress
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Tue, 07-22-2008 - 3:45pm

STBX is off from work this week and actually starting his moving.

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Registered: 07-01-2008
Tue, 07-22-2008 - 5:01pm

Story of my life!


I know exactly how you feel.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 07-22-2008 - 7:48pm

yes, peace..........isn't it wonderful.

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Registered: 07-08-2004
Wed, 07-23-2008 - 8:44am

You're one of the happiest people I've ever read postings from that's getting a divorce...lol! Good for you! I think all of your STBX's recent antics make you see how unhappy your marriage and household were for many, many years.

You've posted before that your STBX has mental health problems. I know many people with mental health issues (some severe) and not all of them use their MI as an eternal crutch as an excuse for their poor behavior. Yes, they have bad phases, but they also have times where they function well. Just because someone has an MI doesn't mean all of their lousy behaviors are because of the illness...some of that it just their natural (and occasionally, unlikable!) personality.

It sounds as if your STBX is going to live out the rest of his life angry, alone, and blaming other people for his problems. That's really a shame, but fortunately, it's not going to be your problem any longer.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 07-23-2008 - 11:15am

I totally agree w/ your assessment of him.