A man needing help

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-02-2008
A man needing help
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Wed, 04-02-2008 - 2:48pm

I know I am a fish out of water here but I need help desperately. I love my wife and have 18 years with her through many ups and downs. We have been together through a short stint of drug abuse in the very early days to success in business and failure in business. I could write a book about everything that has happen.


I'm a good father to two beautiful children.
I've never cheated on my wife.
I've never hit or grabbed my wife.
I've worked hard and struggled to survive a bankruptcy almost three years ago primarily from the losses we suffered in 9/11. My wife was completely isolated from the bankruptcy.


I am not a perfect man and realize I need lots of work emotionally.


Now after great emotional distance between us I find out she is falling in love with another man and I don't know where to turn. I started seeing a therapist and will continue to do so.
Ladies, I know many of you are here to work your way through divorce but I need help in winning my soul mate back. I can not see myself without her in my life and I am so worried about the mental impact on my children. I do not have outside male friends as I just work, go to school and come home. My family is my life.


Please, any insight to a woman's heart would be greatly appreciated. My heart is broken and I really need help.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-19-2001
Wed, 04-02-2008 - 4:58pm

As a woman I can say this:


After years of being with one person things; sex, financial situations, emotions - everything, becomes monotonous.