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Many losses
| Sun, 02-11-2007 - 4:48pm |
Well I went to see a therapist, because I'm not getting over this divorce very easy. She said next to a death in the family, divorce is the next biggest grief. She said, you have so many losses. Your family, friends, lifestyle, home. You loose all that, and people want you to just be okay. I realize, many people get over it very quickly.....but I didn't, I feel very alone, and unhappy, and I miss my old life. If anyone has a similar story, or advice, I would love to hear it.
Thanks for listening

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I understand the too many losses. My parents died, my marriage ended, I got laid off, and many friends & family disappeared. It's a scary loney time. Hang in there and find love & support wherever you can. This is a great place! You are not alone even though it can feel that way. You will heal in time, counseling helped me as did my friends & reading books. Stay stong, cry & rest when you can't, and take baby steps. It's a long road but before you know it you'll realize you are ok.
Sending you angels
OH YEAH!!!!
It is a living nightmare for me and it will only get worse once we tell the kids and then the financial consequences set in.
Seeing a therapist is an EXCELLENT idea. Also, there is DivorceCare -- offered through churches; they have a track for adults and children. I am looking forward to it. It is faith-based however. Look 'em up DivorceCare.org.
Keep coming here for support, too.
I sure do.
M
Hugs, Brenda
Hugs, Brenda
Pink,
Yep, many losses. Material things really don't matter much to me, (except for the house, that kills me). Friends? I guess if they were really friends, they would still be there.
I'm happy to tell you that what i have retained is respect for myself and the love and respect of my children.
c
Brenda,
I am so sorry you are still grieving. I read once that divorce is like a funeral that never ends. It really is never over; the reminders happen over and over; hurts revisited; wounds re-opened. Otoh, we have to *try* to be positive and reach for the positive and rise from the ashes; that is taking care of ourselves.
Please tell me about your kids. How are they doing? I am very worried about my kids and would like to hear your story with regard to your children, even if there is discouraging news. I want to be realistic.
Thanks!
M
I'm so sorry for your pain.
The lost love is devestating. Time will help take the sting away. (so i am told). Try to remember that YOU are special. You don't need someone else to make you feel that way.
Good Luck to you
This morning I put a valentines day card in the mail to my ex. I just cannot give up hope. Hugs, Brenda
Edited 2/12/2007 7:59 pm ET by mebrenda
Hugs, Brenda
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