Married 14yrs & husband left

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Registered: 02-12-2008
Married 14yrs & husband left
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Tue, 07-29-2008 - 1:24pm
Hi all, I will try to keep brief but here's my story. My husband & I married 14yrs 2 kids together my husband decided that he is not happy in the marriage, hasn't been in a while (much to my knowledge) and wants to move out. He still wants to come home (we own a home) and visit the children but wants nothing to do with me. Then I find out that he is having an affair with a girl(like 20)(he's 40) at work.
I am so disgusted. No wonder why he doesn't want to work things out. Why would he, he has a youngster half his age to hang out and do things with now instead of doing those things with me.
When I confronted him, of course he denied it. I showed him e-mails (that I retrieved from his computer) and said how can u deny what is in front of you.
He told me he is moving on with his life and wants a divorce, but doesn't want me to go to a lawyer because it will deplete all of our savings. So so far I have held off.
He comes and goes and he pleases, living the single life and sees his kids a few times a week and on the weekends. And wine's and dine's his girlfriend.
Am I crazy for letting him get away with this. I want to go to the lawyer and hang him by his u know what, but financially i can't do it.
He has me exactly where he wants me, home with the kids and totally needing him because he is the sole provider of the house. I do not work.
Any advise would be appreciated.
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Registered: 03-09-2008
Tue, 07-29-2008 - 1:37pm

Wow, he does have you by the balls and you need to take control and start acting.


Make an appt with a divorce lawyer pronto.

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Registered: 07-30-2008
Wed, 07-30-2008 - 10:42am

What I did:

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Registered: 06-03-2008
Wed, 07-30-2008 - 4:44pm