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married for 25 years
| Sat, 02-17-2007 - 4:33pm |
I am 46 and I have been married for 25 years, though it is coming to an end, because he wanted his freedom. It is hard to deal with, I feel like I am not good enough. I know I'm not as young as I ones was but I'm still the same person he married. My life is turned upside down. he said there is no one els but I don't believe him.

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Hi heartbroken,
It seems the divorce bug is going around,just around me which is all of 4houses,3 out of the 4households are going thru divorces,me being one of them and my brother being another one.
I was married 26years when my X left me a note and told me he wanted out, after 26years I did not even get a face to face telling me he wanted out. that was back in 2003,my divorce took almost 3years to come to an end. 3years and thousands of $ to lawyers.
My X also swore he was not involved with anyone but I found that out to be a lie. He filed for D in 2003 but remained living in the same house with me for all of 2004,did not speak to me the whole year. Finally in Jan of 2005, actually he picked the day he moved out so it fell on the anniv of my dads death.
Also 2 months after I was served my D papers ,he went out and bought a new house, and a new car but put me thru h*ll for 3 years over alimony,claimed paying me alimony would be too much of a financial burden on him.YEA RIGHT!.
He is currently involved with the person he denied being involved with back in 2003, this past summer when he was crying because he did not want to pay me alimony he went to Italy with his girlfriend.
I also found out he has been telling people how bad our 26year M was and actually he told someone on our wedding day he almost backed out because he was not sure he loved me.,Oh he also told me back in 2003 that he did not love me and had not in a long time.
So here I am 50years old,divorced ,alone etc. while he is off with his new girlfriend and new life and having a grand time. I was able to keep my house even though I had to refinance it for another 30years so I will be in my 80s if I live that long paying on a mortgage.
It has been hard for me to hear that my whole marriage was based on a lie,I only wish he would of left me years and years ago so I might of found someone who would of loved me. Now Im alone. He had his g/f to offer him support during the divorce,I had no one.
Oh,I was only able to get alimony for 10years because he told his lawyer he intends on retiring at 62,so based on his word,I did not qualify for permanent alimony,so at the end of 10years with only my income,I will not be able to keep my house,so I don't know what I will do at that time.
SO your not alone ,me along with a lot of other people are right here with you. My only hope is my X gets what he deserves in the end,they say karma can be a b**ch and I hope that is the case.
Sorry for such a downer of a
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