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| Sun, 07-16-2006 - 1:27pm |
I would like to know if anybody's relationship was affected by match.com. I met my ex-husband on match.com and found out that he was still frequenting the site after we got married (along with swingers websites). However, it continued to progress to the point where I found him on the sites all of the time. After our divorce was final, I came to find out that he started to email women months before. SHOULD I BE HURT? HAS ANYONE ELSE EXPERIENCED PROBLEMS IN THEIR RELATIONSHIP DUE TO INTERNET DATING SITES?
Thanks,
Kristi

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Kristi...
Pianoguy (who IS registered with match.com along with a few other 'foolproof' dating services) thinks that INTERNET DATING is basically 'a crap shoot!'
Some people find their perfect soulmate...others don't!
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Apparently, you chose a husband who loved you, but wanted to continue to 'cruise chicks on the internet?' And this reinforces the fact that the excellent communication 2 people MIGHT HAVE on opposite sides of a computer screen...can gradually deteriorate the moment they get...err...'up close and personal?'
Pianoguy
Yes- you are right....but it also reinforces his internet addiction.... I believe that the internet has provided more avenues to people who might be unstable anyway. My ex was a sex/love addict and deeply hurt our marriage due to this. One more question - do you think that it is due to his addiction that he went right back on after our divorce? Cannot be alone?
Just wondering....
abandoned-in-mn...
PG is aware of two types of males:
a. The ones who were always turned on by visiting a 'sexually oriented internet site' prior to marriage....and never shook the habit!
and
b. The ones who resorted to 'visiting a sexually oriented internet site' because there was a lot of disharmony at home!
Which of these REALLY applies in your situation?
Pianoguy
To me, it sounds like your H is a classic example of a man who wants to have his cake and eat it, too. He wanted the stability of marriage, yet he still wanted to be able to play the field.
Quite honestly, based on what you wrote, his behavior was utterly abysmal.
You are right....thanks for your replies...... I cannot believe that I got mixed up in with an individual like this.... I changed my entire life for him. Moved from AZ to MN, gave up a great job, great friends and family to move to a state where I knew absolutely nobody. ONE YEAR later - I am divorced. I gave up so much - I am so hurt that he could not give up anything for me. I guess that I am just in pure disbelief..... I am the type of person who cannot hurt a fly............. I don't understand how he can do this to me and not feel remorse.....He says he does, but doesn't show it.... VERY PAINFUL....I cannot get through one day without crying....... To make matters worse, I now have no money to my name and am forced to work two jobs if I want to get back to where I was. He took all of my money and financial security....... I think that I need someone to smack me upside the head to make me see what kind of person he is....I always give him the benefit of the doubt......
Kristi
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