maybe I'll live here.....

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maybe I'll live here.....
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Mon, 07-28-2008 - 11:12am

Still no word about the settlement STBX proposed to get out of his deposition last week-still hoping I did the right thing there but after killing myself in the yard all weekend I took a leap of faith and contacted a real estate agent who covers the area I had visited with a friend earlier this summer. I had been on line and

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Registered: 06-21-2008
Mon, 07-28-2008 - 12:39pm
That is great that you are moving forward. A friend who has been divorced for 7 years told me that I will never move on but to keep moving forward. It also sounds like you are getting thru the bargaining phase of grieving too. I still feel like I'm all over the map on the stages of grieving. I slide in and out of all 5 depending on what I'm thinking about. It drives me nuts. I can tell you that I will be moving for good on Friday. I am excited to move away (2 hours) but I am also sad to say goodbye to my friends. I know I'm not saying goodbye forever but I know it will be different b/c I simply won't be there and will be making new friends and starting a new job. I guess I am moving forward.
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Mon, 07-28-2008 - 7:25pm

Great!!! So happy for you.

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Thu, 07-31-2008 - 1:51pm

Do you just ever feel like Alice in Wonderland or ET or you know just totally out of your element? I will be 53 this month-never handled any finances despite the fact that I worked continually and I'm conversing with this real estate agent on line and looking at places to live and feeling great that emotionnally I know this is the next step. Then bam! I

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Thu, 07-31-2008 - 9:34pm

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Fri, 08-01-2008 - 6:38am

I think if you are comfortable with the condo, then go for it.

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Fri, 08-01-2008 - 8:18am

Thanks for the advice.

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Fri, 08-01-2008 - 10:21am

The only thing I knew for sure when I knew it was really over was that I needed to move as far from him as possible. There is no way I could stand to bump into him everywhere I went. I have a brother with MS living about 2 hours from me and I am the closest family so I do feel some responsibility to stay close enough to help him and visit. The issue of needing to go back to work has played a part too and the school system in the area I've found has several openings but I'd have to recertify for that state and I just worry knowing that after 30 years I am burned out with schools. If I could get a job there I would need to move sooner rather than later but I know other places will have jobs too.

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Fri, 08-01-2008 - 10:44am

I heard Chely Wright's song the other day, on the radio............."Shut up and Drive".....it really struck home.

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Fri, 08-01-2008 - 11:32am

I'm going to listen to that song-sure sounds right! I spent Wed. with my brother and driivng back I switched radio stations and the 1st notes of George Strait's song "She let herself go" were on-one of the 1st songs I latched onto when this began-couldn't believe it but sang it as loudly as I could going down the road.


I know you hate this hurry up and wait mentality of this. It's not like we've invented divorce-people everywhere are doing it let's work on the paperwork process-dates-deadlines-just tell us when and where to sign and move to the next guy.


My STBX closed our joint acct-did give me $500-and cut up credit cards after telling me we were divorcing. I had NO money to retain a lawyer much less anything else-anyway my lawyer is holding my grandma's

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Fri, 08-01-2008 - 8:10pm

Yea, liked your comment "we wonder if both the lawyers went to Las Vegas together".........it's crossed my mind.

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