Mediation is horrible

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Registered: 03-14-2007
Mediation is horrible
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Thu, 03-15-2007 - 12:15am

I need some help. My ex and I have been going thu mediation (court appointed)every time we go I get yelled at by the mediator. We had a previous agreement my ex has not followed thru with what he is supposed to do. The last time my ex had the kids my oldest told me that he left them with strangers. I wanted to go back to address these issues. During our appointment the mediator told me that me and my attorney are blowing things out of proportion. My attorney sent a letter out to the mediator I did not know anything about the letter and somehow my ex received a copy of the letter. In the letter my attorney said somethings about my ex. To make a long story short it pissed my ex and the mediator off. I was told by the mediator that because I tell my attorney everything I am starting problems. Basically, I lost today. The mediator sided with my ex once again. My attorney is so mad about what happened that he is now filing a motion to get the mediator kicked off my case. My attorney is so mad that he is not charging me anything to file the motion.

I guess I need some insight as how to go about filing a complaint with the bar association. Where do I go from here? Starting all over. UUUUUGH!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 03-15-2007 - 2:07am

my2kids2007...

Very simple solution from Pianoguy:

Eliminate your current mediator and seek out one that is more understanding and less of a bully! . Remember that "changing mediators" be a MUTUAL DECISION between your (almost EX) husband as well as yourself.

Also...be sure and let your respective lawyers know what's going on!

Good Luck!

Pianoguy

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Registered: 11-28-2006
Thu, 03-15-2007 - 8:01am

Umm, yeah! Any mediator that yells at anyone should be fired, on the spot. The guy sounds like a piece of work.

It is amazing to me how, in all of this, the professionals, and my stbx, leave the kids in the shadows -- concerns about their safety and well-being are "blowing things out of all proportion." Shame on the divorce culture!

I hope you find a new mediator or some other solution soon!

M