Mediation - Oh it was UGLY.........
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| Fri, 11-11-2005 - 11:42am |
Well, last night was our 1st mediation session. Oh did he let it all out. He told the dirt on himself. I didnt even have to tell how he verbally and emotionally abusive he is and how he is a cheater. He did it all own.
Funny enough I wasnt even planning to bring those things up because we were not there to discuss "us" it was supposed to be about the baby and a visitation schedule. He told her outright that he doesnt believe in the court system, doesnt want to discuss anything with me, bragged about "all the stuff" he bought. Oh excuse me told her how the women he cheated on me with gave him money and he in turn used that money to buy things for our apt. and how the women knew he was "never leaving me and the baby" we were his home and his family. He told her that he just wanted some of the things from the house, not everything because there was no way I could re-furnish the apt b/c I have a low paying job. Then after bad mouthing me he then tells her dont get me wrong that I am a good mother and have done a good job in raising our son. I mean he showed how inconsistent he was and everything. First saying he could only get him on sundays and then saying he wanted him Fri - Sun. The mediator even picked up on that. He went all out. Saying I cant accept that "we" are over etc. He has to listen to his people telling him how stupid he is for working all those years and having nothing to show for it, letting me keep everthing, them telling him he's a fool. He even told her he hates me and will NEVER EVER forgive me for the restraining order I had keeping him from the baby for those 6 weeks which was almost 2 years ago.
He rapped up the meeting with calling me a Bit-h. My God did he show his true colors. We are supposed to go back to try to still work this out on the 22nd. She asked if i would be willing to still give him some of the things he's asking for b/c he claims that would make a difference in how he feels about me. She said to think about it. But Im not going to give in on that issue. He's suing me for $3000.00 so we'll just deal with that in court.
He left first, knowing I wanted to leave first. So I waited for a while. When I left the building he was no where around, I headed for the train and I kept checking behind me and then out of nowhere I see him walking not directly behind me but behind me nonetheless. How is that when he left first. So when we go back Im gonna ask someone to go with me. And I wonder if I can request he take anger management classes. This is getting serious.

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Hey how are you.
What is a GAL?
Okay. As of right now neither one of us has a lawyer but with this new found anger of his I spoke with the director of the mediation program today and told her of my concerns. Told her I would try one more session if there could be some guidelines such as: 1. no discussion of the furniture issues he has.
2. I be able to leave 15min earlier than him.
She told me that can be arranged and another option is us being in separate rooms. Which I saw someone else suggested. This way we just stick strictly to what we are there for and that is scheduling visitation for the baby. As far as my other concerns about his anger she said I could bring that up in mediation if I felt it wouldnt aggravate him ( I told her I believe it would definitely aggravate him) so she said I could bring that up in court which I will do.
The hearing about him suing me for $3000. is Dec. 13th, and the custody/visitation hearing is Dec. 16. If things dont go his way about the furniture he will be livid come the 16th. Im banking he will show his true colors on both dates. He even told the mediator he doesnt believe in the court system and no one not even me should tell him when he can or cant see his child.
Do you think he has a chance of getting 3 grand from me in court.
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