Mediation Preparation

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Registered: 02-27-2006
Mediation Preparation
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Fri, 03-03-2006 - 4:53pm

Hello again,

I have a question about mediation. I have a date set to discuss our mediation day which is a week after that. What should I bring with her to discuss? What are the most important items to bring up?

Also, I want to talk to her about setting up a parenting plan. Can i bring materials and articles supporting these ideas? If mediation doesn't work, does it look good that I brought these items for mediation to the judge in terms of getting custody of my daughter. I am just worried because my lawyer says since he has the big house, and i live in a 2 bedroom apartment with my daughter, they could favor him! I am so scared to lose her/ She is only 3 and I stayed home with her for the first 2 years. His laywer in my opinion will take this to court. I have been keeping notes of him threatening me, not picking her up to see her ever until FEB, no child support, his lawyer never returning calls to mine or responding to us when we write things. They were actually fined at our first meeting with the judge for no providing financials after the judge ordered them. Do i have a better case to get her primary and have a every other weekend and 1 day a week schedule?

Thank you for all you help

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Registered: 02-04-2006
Fri, 03-03-2006 - 10:10pm

I am new to this also. I haven't even officially filed for divorce. That comes on 3/17 for me. Please, be strong. You have alot of information already. Bring it all. Fight for your daughter. Fight for the right for her to be loved unconditionally. I wish you the best of luck. You sound like you have done some homework. As much as I can tell you I've been told by the firm I have retained as of TODAY. Mothers, unless abusive, have the upper hand re: child custody. Don't back down. Keep the faith!

Cat

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 03-06-2006 - 11:58am

Well, by not being forthcoming with information, he's damaging his case.... also, by not supporting his child RIGHT NOW.


Keep taking notes about when he sees her, and any other assistance he provides.... they could come in handy.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 01-30-2006
Mon, 03-06-2006 - 3:51pm
These are questions your attorney should be answering. I wanted the every other weekend and 1 day a week for my ex but that would have lowered my child support payment. Since I knew he wouldn't do the visitation (he hasn't seen his son in 3 months) I didn't go that route. I know it's expensive to ask these questions but in the end it will save you a lot of money.