A mess...please help

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-23-2007
A mess...please help
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Fri, 07-27-2007 - 1:40pm

Hi, I am new to this board. My STBX and I have only been married a short time & have no children. In the 2 years that we have been married we have accrued alot of debt and bought a house that was over budget for us but we have made it work. DH and I had our initial temp. court date to discuss who would live where, what $ we needed to split, etc. To my suprise the court commisioner advised that we should both stay in the house (it just went on the market today), keep our $ together and try the best we can to pay off our debts.

I feel like my life is out of control, DH has been staying other places when he can and I am staying at my parents house tonight. I feel constantly nervous, unsure, and sad. We don't have enough money for one of us to leave the house. STBX is furious with me...he feels as though I am blaming him for everything and only telling "my side" of the story. In the past DH has been verbally abusive, calling me stupid, idiot and b*tch. My parents were very upset when I told them that and at court my father said to DH that it was unacceptable and DH just said "there are 2 sides to every story". Now his family is mad at me too.

What am I to do? I feel alone and scared. What can I do?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-2006
Fri, 07-27-2007 - 3:27pm

Sending you HUGS as I don't know how to advise you. I don't know what a court commissioner is and why he/she'd be telling you where to live etc.

I would sit down with a lawyer and a financial planner.

Hugs and come on back for support.

M